Is it just me or is everyone on MN either hard faced...

[dazzlerdo]

Is everyone on MN either hard faced, unforgivable or got the perfect life!

All I ever see is walk away, leave, run or he's not worth it

What do you think?

Ltb is usually brought put when there either abuse OR a long history of the DH making their partner miserable and showing no intention of changing or working on the marriage themselves.

Anyone who says ltb over a one off or something petty, is usually told they are being ridiculous by other posters.

Poster: People rarely bring out a LTB solely for a man who doesnt do the dishes

OP: That was an exaggeration obviously!

So this thread is a joke and you don't mean what you say in your OP?

Maybe I've been lucky but I just think a lot of men are shit and if people are asking, it's usually because their partner is shit. My husband isn't perfect but he's never committed an infraction so severe I have to turn to strangers for support and advice. We have a discussion and move on. But you can't do that with some of the bottom feeders I read about on here.

Maybe instead of MNers being less hard faced, men could just be less shite?

My post isn't a joke and i do agree with all that you have said. Just some things I've read I've thought maybe are little OTT.
Saying that I've prob not been on MN long enough to read the amount you all have

The straight forward talk does help. I only started on MN very recently and learned so much already. I wish I had known about it before. Growing up I never had support or direction from my parents, just abuse. My 20s were pretty much a disaster after disaster and not even realising people were taking advantage of me, my money and my place. It took me many years to differentiate between real friends and users and the same with relationships. Im still learning and enjoy how direct MNs are.

@BastardMonkfish

Maybe instead of MNers being less hard faced, men could just be less shite?

GREAT point!

@dazzlerdo

Obviously there is a lot of good advice. But.. I mean some things, like he didn't do the dishes. Leave him!

Nobody here has ever said that unless it's a joke.

It always cracks me up when someone says this is my first LTB.I always think it must be my 500,000th.

I have to add, MN has taught me a lot in the years I’ve been here. One is a master class in critical thinking (thanks vipers )

The other was that I was in an abusive relationship, and I should LTB. That was posted on the relationships board where they’re usually a little kinder than AIBU. They were great, suggested people for me to talk to and reading material etc. It was a head fuck to see my entire 14 year relationship as being pretty much a lie. But I realised it - better late than never!

I think it's the kind of reaction everyone would hope /have wished they could have had/ could have.
So someone might advise ltb because in a similar situation they wished they had done. Dunno if that makes sense on paper but it sounds better in my head!

I think it’s online chatter that’s all. I think many mn posters are all bluster & sass.
In real life they’re probably not at all. Just online it’s all hell no
I’m not doing the laundry for my man who works 354hr a week to financially support me and kids in a huge house with staff,dogs and state of art kitchen.

Have you seen the thread about a dd who won’t tell her mum her GCSE results. That came out over a month ago.

Some of the advice is that it’s the dd’s private business and the mum has no need to know that private info.

Although many posts say she should be allowed to get them from the school if the dd won’t tell her (however there’s debate on whether that would be allowed or not).

It’s like entering an alternate universe sometimes.

(Results out over a month ago, not the post)

@EspressoDoubleShot

I think it’s online chatter that’s all. I think many mn posters are all bluster & sass. In real life they’re probably not at all. Just online it’s all hell no I’m not doing the laundry for my man who works 354hr a week to financially support me and kids in a huge house with staff,dogs and state of art kitchen.

I'm definitely all bluster and sass on here. Mainly because I'm so fucked up from abuse that if somebody sounds a little bit peeved with me in person, I'm absolutely fucking terrified and clam up out of fear I'm about to be twatted across the face and/or fired.

And I don't particularly want other women to be in that situation where they're knocking on fifty and still want to hide from the boss.

I am much harder now than I was 20nyears ago. I've lived through enough shot to know I will not put up with any more of it from some chucklefuck or other.

If you're unhappy. Leave.
If he's a useless shitbird. Fuck him off.
If he sits about in his pants playing playstation all day, tell him to fuck off to the far side of fuck and when he gets there, keep fucking off till he's as fucked off as I am for putting up with his shit for a year....

*Ahem..

Yes.

But. Obviously it takes time sometimes to get prepared to leave and it's not quite as easy as just "LTB"

Ultimately.
If a partner doesn't improve your life, they shouldn't be in your life.

I often think on MN that people posting about obnoxious partners seem to be hanging around for years before leaving them or at least calling them out on whatever it is. So often the response sets reflect that ie get it together and go!