To ask how you deal with this

[Rosebel]

Have you ever really really disliked a senior team member? How did you deal with it?
This person was a team leader and left less than a month ago (everyone thought for good) but returned yesterday as the fucking manager.
To say I'm upset is an understatement. I've been in tears about it most of the day. I feel unwell but am not sure if it's just the stress.
I know he doesn't like me and after he basically bullied me in to reavling medical information where others could hear and refused to let me go home when I was ill I just can't bear the thought of him being my manager.
I'm looking for another job anyway but the thought of going in to work makes me feel sick. Very few members of staff like him, although they said he's been okay on his first day back, but I don't think they feel as strongly about it as I do.
I just need some advice about how to get through this until I get a new job. My husband has said I can leave if it gets too bad but I'm fully aware he doesn't really want me to and it's not really fair to expect him to support me anyway.

I feel for you! Someone I couldn’t stand came back and it’s just awful.
I suppose moving internally is not an option? Log any unacceptable behaviour and report it. Do not put up with it. Good luck finding other work.

The person I’m referring to expected me to get him a transatlantic flight the day after 9/11!

That's really shocking, disgusting really.
I went in to work today and managed to avoid him for the morning but I know that's not going to be option long term. I'll have to talk to him some time.
Although they advertise as a team, it's often not like that. Management take the piss and will always cover for one another. You get told one thing and then you get told by someone else you're doing it wrong.
So tbf the job is pretty bad anyway but having him there as manager has just made it more unbearable.

Well, that request was so obviously impossible, I didn’t spend any time on it!
It’s good your husband is supportive.
I think when you are being bullied at work, you often suppress the feelings and only process it and realise how ghastly it was when the situation ends. That’s why the person coming back is unbearable even if you put up with him before.

I once got so angry during supervision (with my incapable supervisor who kept taking credit for my work) that I lost my temper and told her (in quiet icy tones) exactly what I thought of her behaviour, and said if it were up to me she’d be on a PIP by now. I then listed all the things she’d done over the last week that had made my life (and colleagues’ lives) harder and made us look bad.

She was so shocked she didn’t say anything but after that she was sickly sweet to me 😂

Yes. I start ed job hunting so I knew light at the end of the tunnel would keep me sane. And all communication by email where possible & after every chat that they instigated that I couldn't escape, I emailed myself my written notes confirming what had been said or agreed & my timeline for actioning it. (Arse covering experience already). And I also copied in HR on holiday & sick leave stuff as I knew the person liked to shaft people's Leave requests & time off for sickness.