Aibu or is this pretty Shitty ?

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It was my dd very first day at playgroup she's 3 and talks a lot and understands a lot, anyway the night before her first day mil went on and on to dd saying " make sure you phone me and tell me all about your big day " she said this a few times to dd, the next day dd and dp phoned mil to let her know about dd first day and she didn't bother to answer the phone, nor call back till late that evening and said she was sorry and would call tomorrow morning, she's the type of lady to cry and make a big fuss if things don't go her way ie if we're busy she'll tell people we're stopping her seeing dd, but if she's busy nothing else matters, Aibu or is this unfair to do that to dd ?

Hopeful bump not sure if I'm being unfair

That is shitty and I would make a point of not answering her call when she finally deigns to contact you. And tell her why!

Yeah that's crap behaviour op. Did she give a reason as to why she didn't answer the call earlier? Was it something she couldn't get out of or no real reason?
Not sure I'd be in a rush to answer her calls when she finally decides to return it at a decent hour if there wasn't a valid reason for not answering if the first place.

No she was at a gathering and said no signal but she asked dd to call her and kept going on and on and on at dd to make sure she called her and when dd did she didn't answer I don't get why you would nag to get a call when your busy anyway, if it was the other way round and I hadn't called her I'd have been in the bad books!

I think you’re being a bit unfair. I take calls at gatherings/events all the time so the fact she wasn’t at home doesn’t mean she was too busy to answer the phone. She probably had every intention of answering the phone if it rang. But it didn’t, because there was no signal. Which happens unpredictably so she is not at fault for that. She called that same night as soon as she realised she’d missed the call and apologised to you and asked to reschedule the call with DD. But you want to put her in your bad books?

What more can she do? Do you expect her to sit at home by a landline, because signals can come and go even at home depending on where you live.