I’ve posted this inspired by the number of threads on cheeky fuckery of one kind or another. I think these are good threads in the sense the responses to them help give us ideas on how best to cope with difficult people.
As someone who’s been a self confessed people pleaser myself I totally sympathise with everyone else in this position. I don’t know if it’s a British thing or what but a lot of us are conditioned I think to be nice and not make a fuss and yet we’re called shy doormats very often by the people who tell us off for making a fuss!! It’s a really difficult habit to break people pleasing I think especially as in my case emotional blackmail was often used even if my decision not to engage with someone, for example, was perfectly valid objectively.
Generally speaking I’ve noticed people who lack confidence and aren’t assertive often are treated badly by their peers both directly and indirectly. They are often seen as less capable in managerial type positions as well. Is it because people regard them as somewhat immature do you think - unable to handle difficult emotional situations/people? Or not necessarily?