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To dislike most people

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MirrorMirrorWall · 10/09/2021 00:33

People in general really. I just can't be bothered with other humans and their opinions and bullshit all the time. I'm a live and let live type of person but most people just have an opinion on everything. What makes them think they know everything about life. Does anyone else feel the same

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PostMenPatWithACat · 10/09/2021 00:35

That's exactly why I love MNet. Grin

Anordinarymum · 10/09/2021 00:35

No. And you just contradicted yourself badly

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MirrorMirrorWall · 10/09/2021 00:37

@Anordinarymum no I haven't.

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irresistibleoverwhelm · 10/09/2021 00:41

Me too, used to be the kind of person who thought everyone was good and honourable and basically people were nice and well-meaning and ultimately kind. I used to like people and rarely met anyone I disliked.

A lot of my experiences in the past ten years have taught me that most people are ultimately selfish, hypocritical, wouldn’t put themselves out to help anyone if there wasn’t something in it for them, venal and two-faced.

I got too good at seeing beneath the surface of what people say to what they actually are and do. Now I dislike most people and rarely meet anyone I actually like. I wish it wasn’t the case, but I’ve seen too many things now Sad

soapboxqueen · 10/09/2021 00:42

I have opinions on everything. I can't help it. I also dislike other people. Not because of their opinions or anything.

I just don't like having people around me much

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MirrorMirrorWall · 10/09/2021 00:43

I don't care if someone eats too much, drinks too much, or if they smoke 50 fags a day or a joint every night. I don't care if someone works 60 hours a week or claims benefits. I don't care if the neighbours have 30 plants in their garden or if they play music until 11pm. Half the threads on here are so unbelievably sad. People in real life and even sometimes on here must have extremely boring lives to worry about this sort of stuff. Stuff that doesn't actually concern them what so ever.

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Anordinarymum · 10/09/2021 00:47

[quote MirrorMirrorWall]@Anordinarymum no I haven't. [/quote]
You're a live and let live type of person who can't be bothered with other humans and their opinions and bullshit all the time.

So you're not a live and let live type of person at all. You are intolerant of other people and their opinions which matter to them.

Think about it

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MirrorMirrorWall · 10/09/2021 00:47

@soapboxqueen why do you care so much to have an opinion on everything though? That comes across like I'm being an arse but it's a genuine question. I have a woman on my Facebook who continually gets into arguments with people because she has an opinion on every little thing that happens in this world.

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MirrorMirrorWall · 10/09/2021 00:49

@Anordinarymum it's just annoying. I don't care if they have them or not, it doesn't ruin my day or affect my life. Just annoying and sad...

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Anordinarymum · 10/09/2021 00:51

[quote MirrorMirrorWall]@Anordinarymum it's just annoying. I don't care if they have them or not, it doesn't ruin my day or affect my life. Just annoying and sad...[/quote]
Why not just live and let live then?

Plumtree391 · 10/09/2021 00:51

I tend to like (up to a point), most people until they do something I don't like; sometimes even then I think they didn't really mean it.

Opinions are interesting, surely everyone has them and we can't all agree on everything.

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MirrorMirrorWall · 10/09/2021 00:53

@Anordinarymum I do... I don't comment on their posts or get involved in their lives or drama. Just find it extremely bizarre that they care so much about what other people are doing. People that that they've never even met before or situations that don't even directly affect them. It's just weird.

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Mintjulia · 10/09/2021 00:54

OP, it sounds like you need a good spring clean of your social media contacts and probably your contacts in real life too.

I felt like that working where I was two years ago. Once I'd moved to a new company, I could see from a distance that the people who were dragging me down were small minded & unpleasant individuals but that didn't mean everyone is small minded and unpleasant.

Make some changes and that feeling will go away. Brew

AnnieSnap · 10/09/2021 00:55

This may not be the best place to express this view. No doubt the condescending, preaching MN subgroup will be along any time now to give you grief 🤷‍♀️

Emanchego · 10/09/2021 00:56

Can't stand most people, so nasty, sneaky and bitter. I'd trade 500 of 'em right now to have my dear pet back 💔

Anordinarymum · 10/09/2021 01:00

Honestly? I find that most people are decent. It's just the few who do and say bad things that spoil it for the rest of us.
I also think it'd a question of your own attitude to other people. If you are open and honest and a little tolerant too, it goes a long way.

I see people on social media who seem to find it necessary to tell the world about everything they do. That's their choice. It must make them feel better. It's not something I would ever do, but that's not for me to say it's wrong.
We can't all be the same and if we were it would be like Stepford:)

Kanaloa · 10/09/2021 01:05

I mean it sounds like you also have opinions on other people though. Like you say you don’t care but also say other people having opinions are ‘annoying and sad’ so it’s a bit contradictory.

I think it’s pretty evenly split. Some people are shit, some are nice. Some I don’t know well enough to really have an idea what they’re like. If someone was picking arguments all the time on Facebook I’d probably mute them, if that can be done.

AreYouReally · 10/09/2021 01:09

[quote MirrorMirrorWall]@soapboxqueen why do you care so much to have an opinion on everything though? That comes across like I'm being an arse but it's a genuine question. I have a woman on my Facebook who continually gets into arguments with people because she has an opinion on every little thing that happens in this world. [/quote]
Which is worse though, having an opinion on everything, or not having an opinion on everything but having an opinion on people who do? Confused

soapboxqueen · 10/09/2021 07:44

[quote MirrorMirrorWall]@soapboxqueen why do you care so much to have an opinion on everything though? That comes across like I'm being an arse but it's a genuine question. I have a woman on my Facebook who continually gets into arguments with people because she has an opinion on every little thing that happens in this world. [/quote]
My brain will formulate an opinion no matter if I'm particularly interested in the topic or not. I assume most people are the same. Doesn't mean I'm going to share it and I'd argue having an opinion about something isn't the same as having an argument about it.

I could not be bothered to pontificate my every thought on sm either.

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 10/09/2021 07:54

I am a grumpy old hermit, I find most people selfish and feckless and they don't give a monkeys about anything but their own needs.
Let's have 20 kids, let's burn fossil fumes until the planet collapses, money is God and so on and so forth.
I have friends and family I love but i think it's time we were all wiped out like the dinosaurs.

Islamorada · 10/09/2021 08:33

I hate people when their opinions are based on things like Netflix series. Even worse when these same people claim to apply critical thinking 🤣 These series mostly tell you how and what to think. I always burst their bubble so I guess they hate me too.

someonesomewhere7 · 10/09/2021 08:49

I'm with @Anordinarymum on this one as I can totally see the irony in your post.

You're all live and let live until someone is too opinionated and vocal for your taste, then they become "annoying and sad". Who's judgy then?

I think having opinions and expressing them is absolutely ok, as long as they are at least reasonably informed. I will speak my truth when i come across dangerous ignorance/fake news/homophobia/racism/etc online and in real life. How else are we supposed to progress as a society if we don't condamn nastiness and stand up for our values?

And it's ok if you judge me for that.

TempleofZoom · 10/09/2021 08:54

[quote MirrorMirrorWall]@soapboxqueen why do you care so much to have an opinion on everything though? That comes across like I'm being an arse but it's a genuine question. I have a woman on my Facebook who continually gets into arguments with people because she has an opinion on every little thing that happens in this world. [/quote]
Erm OP
People are allowed to have a different opinion to you.
The issue is that you are taking it personally.

knackeredcat · 10/09/2021 09:04

I'm also a grumpy old hermit, my neurodivergence making me more so. Many people seem to have become increasingly loud, aggressive and selfish, so I'm quite content to avoid them for the most part. Interaction with people in work leaves me exhausted anyway (particularly one demanding queen bee type) so I have no energy for anything social. And that doesn't bother me. And I'm glad I ditched social media years ago too.

wildmountaintime · 10/09/2021 11:40

I think I get what you mean OP.

There are some genuinely lovely people around. I think you're correct though that probably most people are self serving and over judgemental of others. Also most people I find stick to circles similar to themselves and are quite narrow minded and classist (both ways - either looking down on people or the he/she thinks they are too good for us mentality).

I think it's possibly the rise of social media and quick access to vast amounts of information on literally any topic - that a lot of people nowadays don't/cannot admit to "well I don't know much about x topic". Everyone seems to have an opinion on everything, yes.

I'm similar to you - it baffles me why people care so much about what others do or their choices. Unless I witness actual abuse or something, I don't really give a fuck how others choose to live their lives.