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Original poster

To think they should ask personal questions without kids present?

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LemonSherbetFancies · 09/09/2021 19:51

My friend keeps asking me personal health questions in front of her grandkids. It's about my DP who has RA but also I have had some issues which are personal and which I would rather discuss alone.
Her grandkids are 8 and 10 and very inquisitive/like to constantly interrupt.
Aibu to say this is inappropriate?

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StoneofDestiny · 09/09/2021 19:55

I'm amazed what some people discuss in front of kids. Of course there should be 'adult' conversation away from young ears.

Sirzy · 09/09/2021 19:56

Just say “can we just talk about it when the kids aren’t here”

Notaroadrunner · 09/09/2021 19:57

YANBU. Just end the conversation and tell her you will talk to her another time. Or better still don't tell her anything. Sounds like she'd have no issue telling other people your business if she's happy for her grandkids to hear everything.

Brollypackedforscottishholiday · 09/09/2021 19:58

The main reason I walked away from an otherwise very good friendship..
Adult talk isn't for dc's ears.. My own dm did it and I hated it...

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LemonSherbetFancies · 09/09/2021 20:03

Yes and it is embarassing as I found myself getting upset which luckily I managed to control but obviously not appropriate in front of kids.

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whatnumber · 09/09/2021 20:08

Some people seem to think kids don't listen to adult conversations. I find the opposite and have had years explaining things to my DS.
My own family do this and it drives me mad!
Def explain why.

saraclara · 09/09/2021 20:11

@Sirzy

Just say “can we just talk about it when the kids aren’t here”
Yep. Eventually she might get the hint. I hate the way some people seem to think that kids don't count as listeners, and do this.
Antinerak · 09/09/2021 20:21

I don't blame you for getting upset. Next time she brings it up say 'not with the children here' and change the subject.

Not that it matters but is she doing it in a nosy way or a caring way? I doubt it's the latter if she's pressing you on the subject in front of kids.

Wole · 09/09/2021 20:22

My MIL tried to discuss SIL's birth with her infront of the room full of kids. Whaaaa?

Chloemol · 09/09/2021 20:25

Just say I am sorry I am not prepared to discuss this when kids are around

In fact to be honest I don’t want to discuss it with you ever

And change the subject

WandaVision2 · 09/09/2021 20:33

What is RA?

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LemonSherbetFancies · 09/09/2021 22:23

Rheumatoid arthritis

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