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A family moved in next door about 2 years ago. They are very pleasant to talk to but.... at least once a week the parents will have an argument. It can be so loud they drown out our tv or wake us up, on some occasions you can actually make out what’s being said. I don’t think there’s violence involved.
You can hear the kids crying and that’s distressing as it can’t be healthy for them to be in such a situation.
Any advice on how to deal with the situation?

i'd be interested to hear what people think, as we have this too, but have put up with it for over 10 years as I am a bit of a wimp

we can all hear when they argue, hear the words they say and hear them shouting at the kids

its very sad to listen too, but I generally just turn up my tv to drown it out

I would call the police next time if it’s loud enough to hear through your wall.

I grew up in a house like that. I have memories of crouching in a corner with my little stater covering our ears. It was bloody awful.

I wish someone had made them realise how awful it was.

Police every time. Every week and at that volume is unacceptable for you and for the children involved. Also a call will flag for social services so if the children abused/ damaged by the situation they can get involved.
Calls like this are so important for child welfare reasons.

@whatnextdandelions

i'd be interested to hear what people think, as we have this too, but have put up with it for over 10 years as I am a bit of a wimp

we can all hear when they argue, hear the words they say and hear them shouting at the kids

its very sad to listen too, but I generally just turn up my tv to drown it out

I do the same in the hope if they hear my tv they know I can hear them.

I don't honestly think I would call the police, unless you think someone is at risk of immediate harm, although doing so once might initiate change I guess. Honestly, if the arguments are distressing enough and I knew what school or nursery the children went to I might report anonymously to them saying 'the parents otherwise seem very caring and no other concerns' (they know the children and might be able to gently offer some support if the children are showing signs of being unsettled ). The school doesn't have to act and will not be allowed to update you but it can contribute to any picture of concerns. However the report might at some point be disclosed to the parents and it might be obvious its a neighbour. I wonder if one of them drinks alcohol once a week.

Call the police - they probably don't realise other people can hear them. Tell the police that you can hear children in distress.

Hopefully it'll jolt them into realising the awful impact it's having on their children.

Call the police. This is not ok for those children.

I feel for you OP, I really do. I hate it when the NDN's argue and you just cant quite make out what they are saying, so frustrating

I wouldn't call the police but I'd report the noise levels to the council.

Even if there's no violence, consider how you'd feel, as a child, listening to that. It must be fucking terrifying.

Call the police. Each and every time. Just because you don't hear violence, that doesn't mean there isn't abuse.

I absolutely wouldn't hesitate to call the police.

How absolutely dreadful for the children, at the very least.