Why is he even invited,aibu?

[lingsunfun]

My friend has been with her boyfriend for a year.
They don't live together and both have children with other people so he doesn't want anymore.
He treats her like crap,speaks to her like crap.

She has told me she's not sure if she loves him still or wants to be with him but he has gave her a sti that will keep coming back so is worried she won't find anyone else.

It's out mutual friends baby's christening on Sunday and we are both going.
She's invited him to go (he doesn't want too) but she wants him there (I'm assuming to show she's "happy" and not single.

I'm confused why she wants him there.
He's a twat.
She isn't in love with him

So il be third wheeling.
He doesn't know the friend or anyone else there.

Aibu ?

YABU - regardless of their drama you basically don’t want him to go so you won’t be ‘third wheeling’

FFS. She wants her boyfriend at a function with her. Like most of us would.

Keep yourself out of her relationship - be there if she needs an ear, but don’t stick your oar in otherwise.

She spends hours a week on the phone to me.
Telling me she's fed up,asking me what is wrong with him.
Blah blah
Then posts pics on fb pretending she's lived up.
It is starting to grate on me.

So don’t listen.

But most people want their partner to go with them to important events.

How will you be 3rd wheeling? It's your friend's baby's christening and you're invited in your own right.

Your friend's relationship issues are a different conversation. By all means sit down with her and tell her what you've told us, and offer to support her if she wants to end it because she doesn't seem happy. But not because you feel lonely.

How will you be 3rd wheeling? It's your friend's baby's christening and you're invited in your own right.
I agree with this, I think you’re probably overthinking it and making yourself more anxious than you need to be.
As for her relationship, well it doesn’t sound great, but it’s her life and her choice. I’d probably not be too inclined to have these endless conversations about her relationship tho, I’d be starting to cut those off wherever I could.

You don't want him to go, so you have company. It sounds like you're really bothered that (in your words) she looks happy and not single, whereas you'll look single. You can be single and happy you know. Are you going to be the only single one at this event, is that what this is really about

I get how frustrating it must be to stand by and watch your friend's car crash relationship.

But taking to a public forum to complain about them both is likely to end that friendship should she stumble across this thread.

I'm not single but my partner is at work but I wouldn't be bringing him along anyway.