My oldest sibling and youngest are very preferred by my parents and it pisses me off.
My oldest is neglecting their child for yet another new relationship, and my DM is falling over herself to help out with watching their child so they can fuck off and do whatever they want with the flavour of the month instead of being a parent. It always happens, every time they have a new partner (on a yearly cycle it seems) they expect their child to slot in to someone else house for however long. Last year it was me when they pissed off to Scotland for the week with about 48 hrs notice in the middle of a pandemic.
My youngest sibling has two children and always contacts our mum or dad for money. This money is for weed. One way or another, weed. They either spend too much on it and they need the money for essentials, or they actually bought all the essentials and need money for their weed habit. They can't go more than half a day without smoking. It's ridiculous. And my parents do know this, they just pretend they don't.
I have another sibling in the middle with me. The two of us are the ones expected to help everyone out. I'm the one who never gets anything in return. I could beg for my kids to be watched for an afternoon and it would be far too much because one of my DC has a condition. But older and younger stick out their hands or stamp their feet a bit and they get the moon on a stick. My other sibling usually gets what they ask for, albeit with a decent guilt trip. I never do, so I never ask unless absolutely desperate. I'm furious about this recent thing though. I had to beg and plead for my DM to look after my children when I had to urgently go to hospital and my husband was 400 miles away- I didn't get there until I was incredibly ill because I had to wait hours for her to make up her mind! I ended up staying for ten days and I never heard the fucking last of it, even though she only had them for one night because my husband came straight back.
I don't know why they don't like me or my children as much but it's always been the same. I put myself out for them all the time, and it's never returned. It hurts. My youngest DC doesn't even recognise their grandparents, that's how often they bother coming to see them.
AIBU to tell all of them to piss off the next time I'm asked for anything from them?