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AIBU?

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To think the school should have informed me DD was going to be in the newspaper?

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StickersStickers · 08/09/2021 19:28

A friend called me today to tell me DDs photography was in a local newspaper. She was chosen as she’s the youngest in the school and her and an older pupil presented flowers to someone who visited the school. It’s a very cute photograph, and I remember signing a disclaimer saying they could take her photograph etc. But AIBU to think I should have been told? Not even about permission, I don’t usually get the paper and i wouldn’t have knows if my friend hadn’t called me.

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GoWalkabout · 08/09/2021 19:40

No, your signature covers it and your daughter knew. Enjoy the pic.

mygrandchildrenrock · 08/09/2021 19:41

In an ideal world yes, but as long as you signed a permission form that’s all that matters.

Orangedaisy · 08/09/2021 19:41

Our school put one of the kid’s photos on the back of a lot of local buses without asking (general photo consent was given).
I’d say you got off lightly.

hashbrownsandwich · 08/09/2021 19:41

Children can't give consent themselves, they aren't always aware of any DV/legal circumstances (thankfully).
If you've signed a form giving permission for photos then yes trusts fine, if you haven't then it's trouble.

Nicknacky · 08/09/2021 19:42

Do you really think the schools have the time to do this? Not to mention they wont know what week the photo will be punished if our local paper is anything to go by.

You signed a permission slip, that’s all they need to do.

Planty13 · 08/09/2021 19:42

I wouldn’t complain but I think a courtesy message would have been appropriate really, I know my child’s teacher would have just sent a quick message.

shouldistop · 08/09/2021 19:42

Primary or secondary?

If secondary then I'd expect your daughter to let you know. If primary then it would have been nice for them to let you know.

GreyhoundG1rl · 08/09/2021 19:45

Of course not. They had your permission to do it, it's not their place to make sure you're aware that it's actually happened.
They're not her flaming agent.

Thehop · 08/09/2021 19:46

Ah yes I’d want to know.

Hellocatshome · 08/09/2021 19:48

It would have been nice if they let you know, my kids primary used to send round an email if they knew something was going in the paper but very often papers will send a photographer to school things and wether it actually makes it into the paper is very hit and miss and sometimes appears days or weeks after it actually happened.

Scarby9 · 08/09/2021 19:50

We wouldn't have known if, when or which photo might go in the local paper.
The photographer comes, takes photos of the event and usually other random ones round school, all of kids with full parental permission.
Then he beetles off back to the newspaper office.
Depending on the amount of local news that week, a photo may be published or it may wait up to a month or two. They choose which photo they like that fits nicely on the page, I assume.
Sometimes (slow news week) there is an 'In the classroom' page or double page of photos of kids in various local schools, rounded up from the random photos.
I always buy a paper and we do tweet the articles out.

NoSquirrels · 08/09/2021 19:51

The school doesn’t know what photos the paper will print or when - the photographer snapping it doesn’t mean it’ll definitely be in. So as the decision isn’t theirs, I’d say they’re not responsible for telling you.

Wasn’t the occasion covered in the school newsletter?

Tangledtresses · 08/09/2021 19:53

That's why I signed the disclaimer and said no to public photos for my youngest

My eldest was on the website for 8 years!!!

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StickersStickers · 08/09/2021 19:56

DD is 4.5 and even after we saw the photograph she didn’t know what was happening so she had no clue what was going on.

When I signed the disclaimer at the start of the school year it was a general one to take school photographs and appear in group shots on the social media. I didn’t sign a specific one that mentioned her appearing in a newspaper. That’s not really my issue though.

Even if they didn’t know what week it was going to appear, I think they should have given me a heads up that a photographer from x paper took a photo with DD in it, keep an eye out.

Also this is a small local school (14 in DDs class). A note popped in her folder would have done.

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StickersStickers · 08/09/2021 19:58

nosquirrels we don’t have a school newsletter.

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MasterBeth · 08/09/2021 20:06

Yes, it would have been nice for the teacher to let you know your 4 year old daughter had had her photo taken and might be in the paper (the teacher can’t be sure, obviously).

I can’t believe anyone can say differently!

Sparklingbrook · 08/09/2021 20:08

My two were in the local newspaper all the time when they were in First School. It was a nice surprise to open it up and see one of them doing something.
No permission sought from me (other than the blanket slip about photos) and that's fine.

RuggerHug · 08/09/2021 20:09

Yeah the permission was given but if they knew the one taken of her was to be published (which I imagine they would have as the paper wouldn't have risked printing a pupil whose parents hadn't signed the consent) then it would have been nice to know so you could have bought it. Even if they didn't know which day just a heads up to keep an eye out.

Geamhradh · 08/09/2021 20:10

You gave your permission when you signed the disclaimer. Read the small print.

megletthesecond · 08/09/2021 20:10

My dcs teachers never told me.

I once saw a school pic of DS's mates in reception year doing fancy dress but didn't recognise the girl they were with. That girl was my son .

Paq · 08/09/2021 20:10

The school won't have known what photos would appear in the newspaper.

MyBadHabitsLeadToYou · 08/09/2021 20:12

Do you really think the schools have the time to do this?

You see this a lot on school-related threads. I can honestly say it doesn’t reflect my experience with my child’s school in the slightest. They’re always emailing/messaging on seesaw/posting on Facebook to keep the parents aware and up to date. It’s a big big school as well.

It takes two seconds to engage and send a quick message and it makes such an enormous difference.

Sparticle · 08/09/2021 20:21

I was chair of the PTFA at my DC’s last primary and I would regularly email photos and small stories into the local papers on behalf of the school (obviously with the correct permission). The papers would then fit the stories in whenever they could in the following couple of weeks. So they might have happened in this case ie it wasn’t an official visit from the paper?

KrisAkabusi · 08/09/2021 20:24

The photographer probably took hundreds of photos of different kids. The school won't have known which, if any, were going to be used, so they would have had to put a note in everyone's bags. Which isn't reasonable.

clary · 08/09/2021 20:30

Speaking as a former local newspaper staffer, two things may have happened:

The school may have taken a photo or several photos and sent it hopefully in to the paper - likely as many many papers no longer have staff togs, and many many pix are now "submitted". In that case they would genuinely not know if or when it would be used.

The school may have told the paper about the event and the paper may have sent a photographer (most likely a freelance). The tog would not have done more than possibly check that all children offered for pix were OK to be photographed, if that (they may have just assumed school would be responsible for that, which is fair enough). As others say, they would have taken many pix and even if the school asked, would not be able to say when they would be used or which ones.

I guess the school could have put on the website - a photographer was in school on xx date - keep an eye on the local paper for possible pictures. But I don't think I would expect that tbh.

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