Changing plans at the last minute

[Dontmakemegoonatrampoline]

We accidentally left our 5 month old's toy at my SIL's house.

Her house is on the way to our DD's school so we arranged that we would come to collect it from hers after we drop DD off. Her DH was supposed to be in so that we could collect it. She would not be as she was taking their eldest (3 years) to nursery along with their baby of 10 months.

That morning, SIL contacted us to say that her DH was no longer working from home that day so he would not about and could we pick it up under the same terms today, as he would be working from home today. It is worth saying that he is a full time position at a big corporation.

The same thing happened this morning. Her DH was called into work so would no longer be around.

There is "a chance" that SIL will be in town today so may be able to drop it off at some point but can't give us a time, instead asking "are you in all day?"

AIBU to think that whilst we do work from home, she should be able to give us some idea of an actual plan to return the toy.

Your 5 month old is not in a rush for it.

His work (and hers if she works) takes priority and if he's really busy this is understandably not at the top of their priority list.

They're essentially doing you a favour (albeit not a big one) so I think you have to take this on the chin.

but then BIL persuaded a member of the family that something (that belonged to said family member) was being sold because it was now worth some money as a "joke" so I guess I feel that he could do quite a lot just to be awkward.
Do you think he'll do the same with iggly-piggle? Drop by this evening.
I wouldn't be causing any inconvenience for anyone over the babies toy.

Don’t worry, I still know I am being unreasonable but it’s still funny that she was very exacting about asking DH for the specific time he could go and pick it up having been so casual about when she could drop it off but as I accept that it was our mistake so is her right.

And I never did say she is on maternity leave. I am not as we run our own business

Could they not just leave the toy outside for you to collect?

Total drama!

@Dontmakemegoonatrampoline

Again, they have tended to change arrangements/be late/not be massively hospitable whilst expecting hospitality back so not lie, but maybe be awkward ie: they did know he wasn't working from home but more made plans to change them. However, again I own it and my previous feelings are obviously clouding my judgment.

Thank you very much for the head wobble.

Where do you state this the first time? I've missed it.

@razorshsrp Because DH’s family couldn’t organise a piss up in a brewery and the constant change and inability to just do as had been planned was what drove my irritation in the first place