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Am I being unreasonable

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Chappie123 · 07/09/2021 20:54

I have 5 kids Ds 9 DDs 6 an 4 an a D's 2 now I need help as I have been trying to figure out where I am going wrong my Ds tells lies an when you see him do something he lies to u saying he hasn't done it, the other day we bought something expensive an I told him not to touch it in any circumstances any half an hour later he said it was broke he promised me he hadn't touched it then my 4 yr DD said he had he told me he never upon questioning him he slipped up an told me he did so I banned him off his Xbox for the day then after inspection I got the item working again so then my Ds asked could he go on his Xbox I told him no as I had already banned him from it then my partner said well the thing is not broken so he has been punished why can't he go on it so I explained it's not the matter of it working now or not it's the principal as he had already done 2 things we have told him not too 1 which was touching it after he had been told under no circumstances not to touch it an 2 he had lied to me about it so that's why he was getting punished but then apparently I am the one in the wrong if you all agree then please explain how I am in the wrong please

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CiaoForNiao · 07/09/2021 20:56

Yanbu. He touched it and lied. It doesn't matter if he broke it or not, he broke the rules.

CheekyAFAIK · 07/09/2021 20:57

A bit of punctuation would have helped, OP!

He disobeyed you by touching whatever it was, then he lied to you. Punishment stands. Possibly best not to leave breakable things within reach though?

LittleOwl153 · 07/09/2021 21:02

Sounds like he is playing on the disparity between the two of you and is playing you off. He can get away with doing what he wants as your do let's him and tells him you are wrong and they're to be ignored in the process.

WhyOhWhyOhWhyyyy · 07/09/2021 21:02

I’m assuming it’s the 9 year old DS doing this. I think you’re right to teach him that his actions have consequences. I think the real issue here is your DP undermine you when you’ve set out the punishment. You need to be aligned or your kids will see right through it.

CaptainCarp · 07/09/2021 21:02

YANBU as you say it's the principle that he touched it when not told & then lied about it.
If you go back on the punishment/consequences then what was the point in giving them.

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