What is with men 32-50 years my senior making passes

[Chocaholic9]

I am in my late 30s and single. Weirdly over the last 6 months or so I've had 3 men who are 32-50 years older than me making passes. I have been pleasant but not flirtatious at any point with any of them.

One is my neighbour who is late 60s, another is 70 and is an acquaintance who I met through a hobby group, who texted me and offered his "hugging services" if I should ever want them which I declined. He texts me every day even though I never reply. It is a one way conversation he's having with himself. Today he complained that I don't spend enough time texting (presumably him) so I texted him back at last and told him I'm too busy for a texting conversation.

Another is a married 85 year old friend who cornered me in his kitchen when his wife was in the next room and told me that when she dies, me and him are getting together. He wasn't joking. Then he tried to kiss me.

Where do these men get their confidence? I feel irritated by it.

I can't imagine ever being 70 or 85 and thinking it's possible that a late 30s man would be interested in me. What on earth do they think they have to offer something 35-50 years their junior? Completely different stages of life.

None are rich and even if they were I'm not interested in anyone's money.

Has anyone else had this? Are men inherently delusional? I've never heard of an older woman doing something like this.

I've never heard of an older woman doing something like this.

You might not have heard of it but it is pretty common. The difference is younger men usually welcome the advances or at least are not offended or disturbed by them.

An arrogant, self entitled git with rapey tendencies doesn't just grow out of it as he gets older, unfortunately.
Please don't make allowances for them because of their ages either. If you'd slap down a man in his 30s doing this, don't hold back with them either, especially out of a misplaced sense of respect.

Not that I'm saying you're wrong by the way. Women tend to get upset by unwanted advances, men tend not to (usually because they see it as a perfectly normal thing to do).

@HarrietsChariot

I've never heard of an older woman doing something like this.

You might not have heard of it but it is pretty common. The difference is younger men usually welcome the advances or at least are not offended or disturbed by them.

Really? I told a few of my guy friends about this and they said no way would they be up for marriage with an 85 year old woman or cuddling with a 70 year old.

Maybe there's a few out there who would be.

I've had this a few times as well. The worst was the guy (30 odd years my senior) who showed up to my work with a MASSIVE Teddy bear for me, I was mortified.

Maybe they just stand out more because of the age difference, I don't find the behaviour of this age group, and a younger age group any different if I'm honest.

I also told a guy friend in his early 50s and asked him about it. He expressed horror at the idea of having sex with a 70 year old woman.

I guess the thing that annoys me about it is that if the tables were turned they would probably not be interested in someone 35-50 years their senior but they seem to think younger women should be.

A while back I had a guy in his 60s contact me on a dating website (it was a site where it wasn't possible to stop people a lot younger or older than you contacting you) and berated me for not being open minded enough to date older people. But I wonder how he would feel about dating a woman in her mid 90s?