To want to shake the couple on Secret Spenders?

[SophieHMS]

How can people be this dim?
It's not that they spend a bit ... they spend a LOT. They don't know how much they spend. They "treat themselves" non stop. They don't have a any idea how stupidly high their loan interest rate is. They are FUCKWITS.

How do people - perfectly nice, working couple - behave like this?

Ha ha, I've no plans to watch. As you point out, these shows are always heavily edited to try to shock the audience, it's all too artificial for my liking.

But surely you would have watched the series prior to volunteering to participate? It's pretty obvious there's editing otherwise nobody would watch. It would be my idea of hell having my personal life and spending habits examined.

I think you are mixing me up with TheJoy - I wasn't on the series. Going on any TV programme is just about the last thing I'd do and as I am the original penny-pinching Scrooge Queen of the charity shop bargain I don't think that particular show would want me 😅

No, I was on the first series so had no idea how it would air. I was naively given an extremely different version of how it would show our marriage and just how hard I work.

I think you are mixing me up with TheJoy

Apologies, I worded it badly meant " you" in general terms.

Oh, I see, sorry, I thought you meant me in particular. Yes, I agree with your point as a general one.

A dd had a friend like this, only worse - massive cc debt because of her shopping habit.
Dd went to see her one day because she was depressed about the debt - only to find her surrounded by yet another load of new (unnecessary) shopping, all still in the bags.

‘Look, let’s take it all back now’ said dd - ‘You can get it all refunded.’

‘But I bought it to cheer myself up!’
WTF can you do with someone like that?

I've a number of friends who've been diagnosed with ADHD as adults (the usual, "You can't have ADHD, you've got a PhD etc."). They're quite open about the impact that this has on their ability to manage life, including money matters. They call it the "ADHD tax" because they nearly always have to book for things last minute and pay premium prices; miss tax/bill deadlines and have to pay interest; forget to change suppliers, get stuck on a high cost deal because they don't cancel within the time etc.

They live with anxiety and levels of procrastination that have a wretched impact on them and their relationships.

I doubt it would make good TV but it would be remarkably helpful if there were a way of working within those difficulties.