AIBU to give up on on this nursery before DS has even started?

[Whitenoise123]

Posting here for traffic and to get some more opinions!
I made a thread on the childcare topic a few days ago about the settling in sessions at my DS new nursery he will be starting in a few weeks. Link to previous thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/nurseries/4339670-Nursery-settling-in-sessions

To summarise DS has had around 10-15 settling in sessions at the nursery where none have lasted over an hour. The staff also seem quite eager to cut the session short everytime DS cries as well and generally just seem inexperienced. Because of this, I think DS has just been getting more and more confused as they’re not giving him the opportunity to get used to the nursery.

I don’t know whether to just cancel his nursery place before he starts on the 21st and find somewhere new or stick it out for a few more weeks and make a decision then?
Thank you :)

I would be looking elsewhere already. Your child is so precious go with your gut reavtion, that nursery isn't good enough for him.

If you aren’t happy, don’t do it. On some occasions your instincts are enough and I think nursery choice is one of them!

10-15 sessions?! It's been a while since mine were at nursery but mine had a maximum of three. I'm not surprised he's feeling unsettled - he probably doesn't know if he's coming or going. I'd be tempted to find somewhere else.

I think you've answered your own question.... The staff seem inexperienced. That would be a huge red flag for me.

Trust your gut! So so important with childcare. I have lots of experience settling kids into nursery/ childminders and this sounds totally inappropriate. He needs to understand that he has to stay there - I totally approve of child centred etc but this seems very confusing.

You absolutely have to feel confident in the people you are leaving your child with - go with your gut. My DD's settling in period was over three days, the first was about an hour and I stayed but didn't interfere, the second, I left her there for two hours and the last one was a half day so she could get used to eating there. 10-15 sessions sounds pretty odd to me, I'd be having my doubts too!

10-15 is a lot of settling sessions to be still unsettled.

Defo go elsewhere. Consider if a nursery is right for him. Is it a bit too busy for him? Maybe a childminder is more appropriate?

Will anywhere good have space available at such short notice?

Agreed - trust your gut. If you don't trust them to look after your child, or think they're inexperienced or lack competence find somewhere else.

They sound like a very oddly set up nursery. I've never known that approach to 'settling in' before and it's evidently not working.

Not wanting to sound picky but what made you choose this nursery to start with? There must have been something you liked about them. Or were there no other places with openings? Have you looked at alternatives like a childminder?

@sameproblem me and DP visited a few nurseries in the area but this was the one that we liked the best and seemed to have the best facilities. It’s part of a chain of nurseries, there’s about 10 in the chain in this area and they have a good reputation and have outstanding ofsted reports etc. We were told that there would be a few settling in sessions that would gradually increase in time. Everything seemed good until I realised that they don’t seem to be trying very hard with DS. I‘ve contacted a few childminders as I think that a smaller environment might suit DS better.

How did you get on OP?