to he hurt I didn't receive a leaving card?

[Eliphanbee]

I'm not sure if I am or not!
I did leave my job a few years ago, and was very spoilt.
I returned after 6 months, and there have been staff changes since this time
I am leaving again for, and in all honesty I would have felt guilty if it was a similar send off to last time, although I would have liked to have had a card (and maybe a small token gift)
I tend to get on with my colleagues, and have had a couple of individual presents, which has been lovely. Others have wished me well also.
It has just stung a little, I always contribute to others collections.

In theory, it's not difficult to arrange a leaving collection by email, people can contribute to a PayPal money pool, and you can buy a gift online

But I suspect in most workplaces, it's "out of sight, out of mind" and if colleagues are not getting together face-to-face, it's far less likely people will arrange a card or collection. I wouldn't take it too personally

I can see why they haven’t, we had a member of staff do this and all joked she’ll get nothing if she leaves again maybe they think you might come back again?

You have left once before and folk were as you say generous. Maybe they feel once is enough per person . I don't know .

lol, maybe 😂 it's a hospital so no wfh, although sometimes you dont see the same people all the time..we usually keep a collection for someone though!
I am willing to go back on the odd day to help out if needed, so maybe that's it!

Same here, I left my work after a few others who all were given cards, money and a little leaving party each. I got nothing besides a few work friends calls to say good luck etc. It really upset me as I thought I got on with the whole team, apparently not! Have yourself a little pity party then move onwards and upwards.

Ive aways seen staff collections as a bit of a racket so I never cntributed to them. Some eople get two or three (engaged, married, baby) while others get nothing but contribute to all the others. It does seem very arbitrary and unfair.

A parting gift or card is nice, but not mandatory. You also said there’s been staff changes, so maybe the point person who used to organize or suggest these things is no longer there. I wouldn’t dwell on it. You’re moving on anyway, so what does it really matter thinking about it?

You left, received gifts and attention - then came back and are leaving again only 6m later.

We wouldn't do a collection in our office, you already received it!

I left for 6 months, but have been back for around 4 years

I think it depends on your employment status as well, e.g. if you were directly employed the first time round and came back as bank, that's different. Like I always had presents when leaving a teaching post, but never when leaving a supply job, even when I'd done long-term supply in the one school.

It's a difficult one @Eliphanbee .

As the person who ends up the default organiser of these things it's always a bit of work and maybe if people had donated very generously first time round they weren't inclined to do it again.

The fact that you got individual presents shows you were a valuable member of the team and people acknowledged your contribution.

when I returned it was through the bank initially, however accepted a permanent post shortly afterwards

I no longer contribute to leaving gifts because it is too expensive. In a previous team it was flowers or presents for everything. A team card would have been nice though but it relies on someone organising it.

I was hurt one year when a colleague had a birthday card (his birthday is the same day as mine) and I did not. So from then on in I don't do that either unless it's for my particular and loved colleagues.

You’ve left once already!

We’ve had a few people leave twice. I’ve never contributed to the second leaving card and collection. Especially when they only left for 6 months. It’s not a case of moving on every couple of years for a new promotion. With 6 months, it’s very much that you thought the grass was greener, it wasn’t and you came back quite quickly. I wouldn’t be convinced you wouldn’t do the same again.

You received more than I did, after being made redundant from a job I'd done well for 20 years. TBH most people were working from home and I'd been on furlough for months, but all I got was a card from my manager, signed on behalf of the rest, with a gift token inside. I don't know if it was poor planning by him (he could have asked people to email goodbye messages to print off and put in the card) or just that I was out of sight out of mind. Needless to say, I've not bothered going back to visit. At the end of the day, they were just work colleagues, not friends.

Sorry OP but ants-in-their-pants colleagues don't exude loyalty and things like that stick in people's minds.

You've had colleagues get in touch with you, surely that matters more than a contrived gift which you already had last time?

Hope your new job is what you want it to be. Don't go back to this one.

yes I feel your pain! I turned up to my last day at work with vegan brownies (one of the groups was vegan) but got a bit cold shouldered. I did get a card and a small bunch of flowers but I think it's coz they didn't really like me! I've been examining in a constructive way iykwim, why, and have learned a few things about myself and the nature of group friendship. I now know I might be a battle axe sometimes but some groups are cliquey and if you don't fit that makes them feel insecure.

just brush their dust off your feet and moooove on...xx

@Stovetopespresso I'm sure it's not because they didn't like you . I turned into the organiser of these things through default in my last team and tbh it's a completely thankless task.

The worst I heard was my SIL retired after a number of years with the council. She got nothing and months later her useless manager posted her a card with about 5 signatures and some cash. Thankfully as both her and BIL were retiring at the same time I'd sent them a joint card as it was the only thing she got at the time, and she's an absolutely lovely person who everyone would get on with.