Hi
I’m prepared to be told I’m totally unreasonable.
In a nutshell I’m annoyed with a very good, long standing friend. We have been good friends for years. Helped each through thick and thin. Had many many good times together.
Issue is this : I work full time sometimes 7 days a week. On leave now and I like to plan ahead and sort each day of leave out. I know that’s not how everybody operates but it is how I do things , maybe it’s because I’ve been a single parent, or because I work full on so my annual leave is precious but it is the way I am. I arranged to meet up and have a day out with my friend, she works part time over less days if that matters but she has younger children. Her older children are the same age as mine or there abouts.
We planned the day for when her child would be back at school and the younger one in full time day care. All good. She goes as far to say she will look into afternoon tea and a spa. Ok I wasn’t thinking anything that extreme but I’ll go with that if it’s what she wants. Then about a week ago she tells me the older one ( full time school age) will not be at school. No problem I say what about another day. She doesnt want to do another day as she will have the younger one with her as well. Ok then I say should we do something to include the older one, nothing major don’t go far maybe a cafe or walk but centred around her child.
Fabulous she says looking forward to it.
Last night I rang her left a message checking she was still on for today and what time should we meet etc. She gets back to me saying sorry she had made plans to do an activity with her child and will see me another time!
Now I know it’s not major in the great scheme of things I am fully aware of that but I am disappointed. I could have booked a sports class but not now, of course it’s full. Most of my friends are working or have plans so that’s it.
I don’t think she us trying to lose the friendship as she is always asking to meet up. Her dh and my dh get along well and she is usually the one instigating meet ups because we fit around her family.
We have also recently booked to go away with them, at her request and paid a deposit.
I’m slightly concerned that she might pull out of that and it’s an expensive trip which we would not have booked to go on alone.
The last catch up we were due to have she doubled booked and went with the couple who had young children over dh and I.
I’ve had children. I know people double book but what do wise munsnetters think.
Am I just being silly.
I really don’t think she is trying to ghost me.
Another friend has ghosted me, and other friends and my dd mentioned her yesterday and I’ve been thinking about her too.
I’m also withdrawing myself from my anti anxiety pills and wonder if this is making issues appear much bigger than they really are.
In fact I don’t know why but I’m sat here crying.
God what is wrong with me?
Maybe I’m going crazy and it’s all in my head.
Thank you for reading.