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To Chuck weedkiller over fence ?

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incognitodorrito · 06/09/2021 11:17

I recently paid £7 K to fence in my garden. Both neighbours very tight and I wanted a safe garden so I've paid the lot. I won't ever be able to afford to finance this again. The neighbour on one side is allowing her garden to go to pot and I've got thorns and weeds and branches growing over and pushing against my new lovely fence. She did not allow my fencer to cut anything back on her side which ok fine, but now it's pushing against my fence. Her garden is so absolute mess but she doesn't seem to want to do anything about it any I don't want the fence damaged. AIBU to cut back what comes on my side and Chuck weed killer over the side ...?

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DocAutumn · 06/09/2021 22:03

Don't put poisonous chemicals in the soil on any side of any fence!

EastWestWhosBest · 06/09/2021 22:24

@LaundryForever

Weed killer has a massive environmental impact on plants and wildlife (birds, insects, hedgehogs, etc) so no you should definitely not chuck weed killer over. Think of the wider impact.
This. My neighbours garden is a complete mess of brambles and nettles. It looks bad but it’s a haven for wildlife.
EarthSun · 06/09/2021 22:24

Also you spent £7k on a fence knowing exactly what the neighbours and their garden are like, so you can hardly complain about "protecting your investment" when your "investment" clearly wasn't suitable in the first place if it's being damaged by the garden that was there already.

Cut back anything your side by all means but you can't go chucking weedkiller around.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 06/09/2021 22:37

Next door to me was empty for 3 years. The ivy and brambles have totally destroyed the fence and after having a shitty time last year it took over my whole garden

Mn would hate me, I'm not sure how much weed killer I've stuck on my garden now but it worked.

Lostmarbles2021 · 07/09/2021 06:23

Spoiler alert: I poured weed killer over the fence. And painted it on the leaves of anything that poked through the fence
And tipped it at the base of the fence

Did it work ??

OP It’s very clear that there is an overwhelming majority that are horrified by your immoral, nasty and dangerous idea. You have had it pointed out that you would kill wildlife (whole issue here with us relying on said wildlife to live), possibly kill a pet and could cause cancer. ... yet still you are thinking about it. Why ask if you aren’t prepared to listen?

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incognitodorrito · 07/09/2021 06:37

@Lostmarbles2021 a pp also mentioned a much less harmful mixture that they used and i asked exactly the same question you've just quoted ?!

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Lostmarbles2021 · 07/09/2021 07:13

My point is that you are still happy to consider poisoning the plants on the other side of your fence.

Less harmful? How much less harm? Any harm? Do you know? Do you care?

I’m pretty shocked that you even posted the question to be honest.

WIBU to vandalise my neighbours property? Er.....yes. It’s pretty obvious that anyone with a moral compass wouldn’t consider it. Think it? He’ll yes! Imagine doing it? Totally. Do it? Only if you have dubious moral standards. Sorry to be blunt but you asked for opinions and that’s mine.

Rubyupbeat · 07/09/2021 07:19

@LaundryForever
100% what you said

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incognitodorrito · 07/09/2021 07:30

@Lostmarbles2021

My point is that you are still happy to consider poisoning the plants on the other side of your fence.

Less harmful? How much less harm? Any harm? Do you know? Do you care?

I’m pretty shocked that you even posted the question to be honest.

WIBU to vandalise my neighbours property? Er.....yes. It’s pretty obvious that anyone with a moral compass wouldn’t consider it. Think it? He’ll yes! Imagine doing it? Totally. Do it? Only if you have dubious moral standards. Sorry to be blunt but you asked for opinions and that’s mine.

Thank you for voicing your thoughts and sorry to have shocked you, are you this melodramatic in real life too ?
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incognitodorrito · 07/09/2021 07:31

[quote Lostmarbles2021]www.goodhousekeeping.com/home/gardening/a20705796/vinegar-weed-killer-danger/[/quote]
But, this is actually helpful - thank you

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pollypocketlover · 07/09/2021 07:56

Ah, you're one of those.

We had our crazy ndn think she was entitled to kill our beautiful ivy. She sprayed poison on it without telling us and we found out after one of the kids had a horrible skin reaction - they liked to look in the ivy for bugs.

We lodged a formal complaint with the police, who came and told the ndn that she had zero right to poision our ivy, and we set up a 24/7 camera in our garden, which the ndn took extreme offence to. Again the police informed her that we were completely within our right to film our property. Our wonderful other ndn, who witnessed the CF pouring the weedkiller on to our ivy, said they were happy to testify in small claims court on our behalf too.

It is completely legal for people to grow plants next to walls, and some of us don't want sterile little gardens. You are in the wrong and an absolute CF for planning to do this.

billy1966 · 07/09/2021 09:03

Next to walls or on top of your neighbours fence?

If the neighbour has paid for the fence then planting ivy that will weigh it down is not your right.

I love ivy and have all the 8ft walls surrounding our home covered in it over the past 70 -80 years. It weighs a tonne, but the boundaries are mine.

Dancingonmoonlight · 07/09/2021 09:32

We had our crazy ndn think she was entitled to kill our beautiful ivy

If your 'beautiful ivy' was spreading to your neighbour's garden and weighing down the dividing fences, she was right to poison it. You sound very entitled.

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incognitodorrito · 07/09/2021 10:13

@pollypocketlover

Ah, you're one of those.

We had our crazy ndn think she was entitled to kill our beautiful ivy. She sprayed poison on it without telling us and we found out after one of the kids had a horrible skin reaction - they liked to look in the ivy for bugs.

We lodged a formal complaint with the police, who came and told the ndn that she had zero right to poision our ivy, and we set up a 24/7 camera in our garden, which the ndn took extreme offence to. Again the police informed her that we were completely within our right to film our property. Our wonderful other ndn, who witnessed the CF pouring the weedkiller on to our ivy, said they were happy to testify in small claims court on our behalf too.

It is completely legal for people to grow plants next to walls, and some of us don't want sterile little gardens. You are in the wrong and an absolute CF for planning to do this.

Like a pp has also said, you sound rather entitled.
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pollypocketlover · 07/09/2021 12:05

@Dancingonmoonlight

We had our crazy ndn think she was entitled to kill our beautiful ivy

If your 'beautiful ivy' was spreading to your neighbour's garden and weighing down the dividing fences, she was right to poison it. You sound very entitled.

No, what's entitled is thinking that you're above the law, and that you have the right to give children chemical burns if you don't like their parent's plants.

It was our wall, and our ivy was perfectly contained, thank you.

pollypocketlover · 07/09/2021 12:11

The crazy ivy killer lady was from a few years ago and we've since moved and I was wondering if I was being paranoid about still insisting on 24/7 surveillance in our garden. Thank you to the people on this thread for proving to me that surveillance is very much a nessecity, evidently you never know if you have a CF neighbour waiting for you to go to sleep so they can douse your garden with poison!

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incognitodorrito · 07/09/2021 12:15

@pollypocketlover

The crazy ivy killer lady was from a few years ago and we've since moved and I was wondering if I was being paranoid about still insisting on 24/7 surveillance in our garden. Thank you to the people on this thread for proving to me that surveillance is very much a nessecity, evidently you never know if you have a CF neighbour waiting for you to go to sleep so they can douse your garden with poison!
... wonders if crazy entitled surveillance lady @pollypocketlover disclosed the having to call the police on her neighbours to her buyers...
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ArabellaScott · 07/09/2021 12:16

YABVU. Of course you can't decide to unilaterally spray your neighbour's garden with weedkiller, what an absolutely ridiculous idea.

BlotBangRub · 07/09/2021 12:16

I'd be happy for my neighbour to come and douse my garden, being as it's all gravel and block paving.
It would save me the job of having to get rid of everyone else's weeds!

pollypocketlover · 07/09/2021 12:41

You're starting to sound unhinged now, to be frank. Don't ask if you're being unreasonable if you're not able to handle people telling you you're wrong. And if you find yourself agreeing that it's OK for someone to give children chemical burns over the sake of an ivy bush, perhaps it's time to consider seeking some professional help.

And yes, we did disclose, unlike you I'm not entitled and I don't think I'm above the law. Have a good one!

Aprilx · 07/09/2021 13:04

Of course you cannot chuck weed killer over a fence. Mind you, I have never found one that works. I have just about come to the conclusion that they are all placebo, either that or my weeds are indestructible.

Aprilx · 07/09/2021 13:11

@pollypocketlover

Ah, you're one of those.

We had our crazy ndn think she was entitled to kill our beautiful ivy. She sprayed poison on it without telling us and we found out after one of the kids had a horrible skin reaction - they liked to look in the ivy for bugs.

We lodged a formal complaint with the police, who came and told the ndn that she had zero right to poision our ivy, and we set up a 24/7 camera in our garden, which the ndn took extreme offence to. Again the police informed her that we were completely within our right to film our property. Our wonderful other ndn, who witnessed the CF pouring the weedkiller on to our ivy, said they were happy to testify in small claims court on our behalf too.

It is completely legal for people to grow plants next to walls, and some of us don't want sterile little gardens. You are in the wrong and an absolute CF for planning to do this.

Beautiful ivy??? 😳. Ivy is a menace to everything around it, I can’t believe somebody actually encourages it!
Gingerish · 07/09/2021 13:16

Not okay OP. You can't police what people have in their gardens. I agree with @pollypocketlover 100%

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incognitodorrito · 07/09/2021 13:26

@pollypocketlover

You're starting to sound unhinged now, to be frank. Don't ask if you're being unreasonable if you're not able to handle people telling you you're wrong. And if you find yourself agreeing that it's OK for someone to give children chemical burns over the sake of an ivy bush, perhaps it's time to consider seeking some professional help.

And yes, we did disclose, unlike you I'm not entitled and I don't think I'm above the law. Have a good one!

Well, we only have your word for it, but I would actually bet money on the fact that you didn't disclose police involvement with your neighbours after you grew ivy all over their fence.
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