Anxiety or something more ?

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I've just spent the weekend with my partner of a year . Both late forties, great relationship and very happy overall. We see each other every weekend as we both have our own kids etc.
He has been successful at a job interview . This is a huge change as he will need to move 80miles from where he lives at present and the new role will be much less frantic and less stressful than now.
He has many changes in the last few years .. relationship breakdown, a geographical move,a new role which turned out to be a nightmare, divorce .
He has been stressed about work since I've met him and has tried to leave. He is thrilled to have secured anew role . He has a history anxiety and isn't great with change or acute change whereas I love spontaneity and adventure . This isnt an issue as he is very easy going and laid back and will try anything when encouraged .
However ... and this is why I'm posting ... He received news of job offer on Friday. We had a special weekend away planned and went . While we enjoyed it , he was distracted and a little detached . He spoke on loop about his new job, his anxiety about telling colleagues and his boss( who is a prick) and I guess I found it hard to understand why he wasn't a little excited and in better form.
AIBU yo think this is more than a little extreme reaction to a much wanted and longed for change with amazing prospects .
Thanks
Ps I have no experience with anxiety or any relationships with people who have anxiety, to the best of my knowledge so ignorance on my part, is strong .

See if he calms down after a few days.

Would any of you think his behaviour was abnormal???

I suffer with severe anxiety after a traumatic life event a few years ago and I don’t think what he’s doing is abnormal. I would guess he’s thinking about it constantly and is telling you his concerns, when you’re really anxious about something you can’t focus on the good, only the bad (in my experience anyway)

I think it’s anxiety. Hopefully it will settle down.

I don’t think it is abnormal. I’ve had much training on stress as a manager and one thing resonated with me is that good events in your life can be as stressful as bad events. So when adding up stress a person is under you don’t just look at things like: trauma, death, divorce, move, etc you also keep in mind that good things like a wedding, birth of a child, new job, and also cause stress.

So him being happy at first and then feeling a bit of stress over leaving his old job and navigating a new job, is perfectly normal.

It's not abnormal at all. He's got to have the awkward conversation about leaving and then hope and pray the new role is better. It's scary and stressful.

I'm one of those go with the flow,happy go lucky types but I'd see this as normal. It's the unknown, isn't it, and a huge life change for him given that we spend so much of our time at work. I'd just support him!

The only way I'd see it bothering me is if I took his reaction as a genuine red flag against our compatibility, like I'd be concerned at the level of difference in how we see the world (you in your scenario as the happy, positive, upbeat one, him as more negative that you fear might drag you down). If that's what I represents on your mind, I get what you mean. But his reaction to this one off situation des pretty within the bounds of reason to me.

Thanks. I have to agree with you all in hindsight. A year in is no time at all to really know a person
Really is it , sometimes? Thanks once more . I will
Totally support him