Dragging divorce, house, new bf, everything. Aibu?

[Acimnow]

Am genuinely confused.

Ex husband moved out a year ago, highly acrimonious divorce, got Decree Nisi a year ago, financial settlement is dragging. I still live in the house, with the kids.

I have a new bf! He is lovely, but it’s long distance and I’ve stayed at his, and tentative plan is that he comes here next time kids go to their Dads.

Somehow I feel odd about him coming here - it’s the much disputed “former marital home” still jointly owned with the ex. He hasn’t stepped foot in the place for over a year and now lives miles away so unlikely to be dropping in, but still, AIBU to have new man here under these circumstances?

Understandable that you feel weird but it but it's your home (for the time being) and you shouldn't. You've every right to move on.

You’re right. I need to get my shit together.

I woke up consumed with anxiety and thought about what if the ex turned up and went loopy. But he won’t.

Please be careful, once the ex finds out you have a new bf things can really get nasty and the divorce can really go to shit as I found out - my ex dragged it on for 5 years and it cost me a fortune, he also contested custody for 5 years and wanted full custodfy once he found out I had a bf, he didn't get it but DS was in the middle of this and really suffered.
Best top pretend you are single until you get that final settlement. You shouldn't have to but you've got to be clever.

Oh dear. That’s what I fear. He kicked off recently when he realised he couldn’t see where I was from the kids’ phones. He wants this over more than I do but we are waiting on some details for the court. Will stay low key.