AIBU to think DC could have just said thank you!

[Autumnweather]

I think I know I am! They're just being kids.

I booked (very casual) afternoon tea. I need to work this afternoon so it saves me cooking and it's a treat for last day of the holidays.

I thought they'd be really pleased. Both moaned and weren't sure they want to go because I didn't think they have bloody macarons.

I should add I am not a big fan of afternoon tea, it's something they have loved before (had it a year ago)

How old are they ?
Kids can be very ungrateful about everything at times!

If they're old enough to be left or you have childcare, go without them. If not, cancel it.
When they ask why, remind them they said they didn't want to go. Feed them something boring like beans on toast.

I'm about to head out alone because I'm fed up of my DC's being so ungrateful. They're 6 and 2 so still small but I'm seriously fed up of the moaning from my eldest when we do anything. She's had more days out this year than I had in 18 years. She can spend the rest of the year at home and I'll enjoy my weekends alone from now on without the DC's ruining it

How old?

8 and 11.

Yes I was expecting gratitude but you don't always get it do you!

I told them they were spoilt and had ruined a treat (not at my most mature).

I contemplated cancelling but they have both apologised now and I wouldn't want to ruin the last day of the holidays.

Camandmitch sounds like a bit of time by yourself to recharge might be nice

Yeah it is ungrateful of them to moan but I can totally imagine kids of that age doing just that. At least they apologised.

@Autumnweather

8 and 11.

Yes I was expecting gratitude but you don't always get it do you!

I told them they were spoilt and had ruined a treat (not at my most mature).

I contemplated cancelling but they have both apologised now and I wouldn't want to ruin the last day of the holidays.

Camandmitch sounds like a bit of time by yourself to recharge might be nice

Maybe you could have asked them first?

Did you ask them if they wanted afternoon tea before booking/paying for it?

It’s not immature to tell them they’re acting spoilt and that they ruined a treat...it’s just the truth. It’s a learning opportunity for them.

I mistakenly thought a surprise would be nice so I didn't ask. The grumbles have blown over quickly.

Ninkanink yes, I guess there is a place for honestly, even if I don't want them "looking after" my feelings.

A case of normal children's behaviour/me trying too hard.

If they don't want to go, it's their loss. I'm sure the shop serves more than just macaroons. Afternoon tea is usually lovely, a variety of little sandwiches and different cakes, maybe scones with cream and jam. My son used to love that.

I expect they will still expect something cooked later on though even if it's only macaroni cheese or some pizza out of the freezer.