AIBU to be a tad concerned about DS4?
I have an aversion to seeking medical advice following some trauma of my own related to HCPs. This makes it very hard for me to see the wood for the trees sometimes and more so, for me to be assertive.
DS4 is 17mo and has always been smaller than the others following between the 9th and 25th centile for weight. He hasn't been weighed since he turned one so I'm not sure when that began tailing off, however recently we've noticed he is visibly skinny. Ribs, spine and shoulder blades can be seen to varied degree and his limbs have very little fat (no rolls or wrinkles at all).
He is breastfed and I admit freely he will absolutely always chose milk over food but I am by and large very strict in ensuring he has always eaten something before I let him Nurse. He however is nursing 5 or 6 times a night and asking all day long, his food intake is all over the place - a good day being a banana and porridge for breakfast, toast and fruit for snack, good sized cooked lunch (cottage pie, lasagne) crisp puff things for snack and a good portion of whatever we have for tea and then supper. Bad days he will pick at his food, throw most of it on the floor and refuse to engage in it at all.
He has thrush on his tongue almost all the time, I treat it, it goes, within days it's back.
Do I need to be firmer with the HV who is only really interested in referring him for his squint/turning eye.