would your kids do this?

[audersandbaby]

Just wondering how weird this is.

DH is an attractive, “young”, secondary school teacher. He has Instagram which is private and just his name so not hard to find.

A few months ago he got a request from a girl, let’s call her Jane. Jane was also private but had her surname in her username. The surname was very distinct and DH realised that a pupil in his school (who he didn’t teach but would know of him) had the same surname, a bit of digging later and he realised Jane is Laura’s older sister who he has never taught and didn’t teach at the school when she was there.
The assumption was that Laura was trying to be nosey and used her sister’s account to increase chance of acceptance. DH reported it to school but as Jane had left he was told just to delete and move on.

A few weeks late, Dave sent him a request. Dave is a student of DH’s and close friends with Laura. School had broken up and Dave was technically no longer a pupil, so DH deleted and ignored.

A week later Dave tried again, DH ignored.

This time, Dave has tried AGAIN but removed his profile picture (but we recognise the username).

Is this normal? Why are they so desperate?

Why is his account his name? That's very silly.

I had most of my teachers as friends on Facebook when I was in 6th form. It was the year it came out though so everyone was 'friends' with everyone and it was more innocent.

One of my x classmates is now married to our X pe teacher I have her on Facebook and see his posts that way. Several of her closest friends now have him on Facebook too. I always find it a bit weird as he was our teacher (and married back then to another PE teacher) However, in reality their age gap will be the same as mine and dh (7 or so) so I really don't know why I find it odd. I have never ever tried to find any of my old teachers myself though

Yes I remember when it was new - and people just added everyone they liked. It may have been innocent but I personally know of 2 young teachers who lost their jobs due to fb mishaps. In one case the board of governors and senior staff doing the investigation evidently didn't understand fb at all. One of the people who lost their job hasn't worked as a teacher since - this was about 12-15 years ago.

Why doesn’t he just change his name!?

Your OP was clear, not sure why the first commenter didn’t understand it! Hate those snotty ‘this is unclear’ comments when if they’d have taken a moment to re read it instead of rushing to get that dig in they’d realise it was their own reading comprehension at fault.

Your DH absolutely should change his username ASAP! Can’t believe he hasn’t. He needs to make it difficult for people to find him. As a PP said, even in cases where a teacher hasn’t done anything wrong it can get quite sticky and they might be questioned as to why they are so easy to find and contact. A client in an old job messaged me on fb in the other folder, and their first message was ‘you stopped talking... xx’ which of course made it look like I’d engaged with him and then deleted the evidence! I hadn’t, I’d taken a screenshot to share with work ASAP and blocked him as soon as I saw it but some people will find ways to be devious and have something to hold over you (not that this guy was doing that to me, I haven’t a clue why he said that as his opener). He’s inviting a lot of bother.

Totally normal occurrence. Kids do that kind of stuff. Teachers need to be pretty careful.