To not have organised anything….

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I’m not in the UK, and Sunday 5th September is Father’s Day here.

I have 1 DC, 100% of the time. Contact between ex and reception-aged DC comprises occasional video calls to/from ex (ranging in frequency from once a day to once a week or longer) and meet ups at a park (weather/COVID/health dependent - lately once every 3 weeks or so).

Ex has made no mention of Father’s Day tomorrow. In the past, I have arranged contact (and catered, and provided gifts/cake for DC to give, etc) on days like ex’s birthday, Christmas, DC’s birthday).

I’ve got health issues, and have been really ill recently (not COVID), and just haven’t been well enough to be arranging/organising/catering anything. So it appears nothing is going to happen.

AIBU to just get DC to try video calling ex tomorrow, or should I be trying to get contact arranged at this late stage so as to not upset DC?

What does he do for Mother’s Day?

Nothing, except if he happens to be talking to DC on that day, he will say to tell me happy Mother’s Day.

Well there you go then, how can you possibly be being unreasonable? Same back has to be fine.

It depends entirely on how your DC feels about it.

Disregard the ex's feelings, that's not your concern.

Does DC care? Are they going to go to school an hear about everyone else's father's Day and be upset/feel left out?

This depends on your DC. if they will be upset they didn’t get a card I would either help them make one or buy one. Anything else it’s up to Ex.

DC hasn’t mentioned seeing ex, but has made a card for him at school. I don’t want to upset or disappoint DC, I just have felt so sick that I haven’t been able to do anything but the basics to keep us both going.

Just have her make a card for him and show it during the video chat.

Thank you for the comments. DC video called ex, showing the card. Ex said it was great, chatted for some minutes, I finalised a meet up between DC and ex in the park on Wednesday.
That was Father’s Day.