To keep saying it’s impossible to overfeed a bf baby

[bigBigbaby]

To my HV?

My 13 month old is really big!! Jumped up to the top centile line (was on the 25th a birth).

Ebf till 6 m. Eats healthily and actually quite small portions (I think)
Has a small bottle of milk after bath each day as we introduced that as part of bedtime routine from 8 months

Breakfast each day is porridge (1oz milk, dessert spoon oats, chopped berries and 3-4 slices mashed banana )

Lunch is usually a sandwich and veg sticks or a savoury pouch, and a yogurt.

Dinner is a small portion of whatever we have.
Small bottle after bath

She drinks water with meals but is breastfed mid morning and mid afternoon before naps and in the night this is what I’m being told is making her so heavy and that I need to cut the feeds but I’m disagreeing I think there are still benefits to having breastmilk but I’m being told those are cancelled out by the negative effects of being ‘obese’ at a young age

I just don’t agree I think once she’s running about more she will slim down surely ?

I think the HV is giving you too much detail in the advice. You can give any liquid child vitamins, it doesn't need to be ones in formula, and you can certainly give any bread. Ditch formula, if you're knackered then offer a bit of normal cow's milk. If you get poo issues then address the quantities of food types for excess fibre, but a good range of food is best and seeds are great. You can print off really good charts for the mix of foods e.g. images.app.goo.gl/gsFCH6RGZM4C65G96. If the proportion is correct then your DD can work it out from there. Focus on trying new foods as often as possible with meals shared between the three of you, that's a good way to reduce fussiness later. As I said before, I'd really just focus on getting her moving, then she'll slim down naturally. Crawl with her, make obstacle courses she can roll around but are easier to crawl, roll a ball so she has to reach about, walk her around holding fingers, help her crawl upstairs, go to playgroup and watch all the other little ones getting stuff so she gets ideas (and jealousy) etc.

@MRex

I think the HV is giving you too much detail in the advice. You can give any liquid child vitamins, it doesn't need to be ones in formula, and you can certainly give any bread. Ditch formula, if you're knackered then offer a bit of normal cow's milk. If you get poo issues then address the quantities of food types for excess fibre, but a good range of food is best and seeds are great. You can print off really good charts for the mix of foods e.g. images.app.goo.gl/gsFCH6RGZM4C65G96. If the proportion is correct then your DD can work it out from there. Focus on trying new foods as often as possible with meals shared between the three of you, that's a good way to reduce fussiness later. As I said before, I'd really just focus on getting her moving, then she'll slim down naturally. Crawl with her, make obstacle courses she can roll around but are easier to crawl, roll a ball so she has to reach about, walk her around holding fingers, help her crawl upstairs, go to playgroup and watch all the other little ones getting stuff so she gets ideas (and jealousy) etc.

Thankyou these are great ideas I feel so much better now because I think I was getting confused but also maybe the HV advice wasn’t as up to date as the advice I’ve got here so I have a plan now and I’ll definitely try and get dd moving more Thankyou !

I was giving her seeded bread as she loved it but the hv said no I had to switch to white bread as under 2 seeded or brown bread has too much fibre and she needs carbs from white bread ?? Is this not ok then or not correct I’m so confused !

Ok that just sounds so fucking stupid that I would at this point stop listening to anything this person has to say on nutrition. Seeded bread has healthy fats, white bread is essentially sugar. Ffs. The recommendation is for small kids to not eat too much fibre as it stops them absorbing food. If the concern is that your child is too big, getting them to switch from high fibre to high sugar food is… questionably intelligent.

HVs are very different. Some are wonderfully experienced and practically extremely helpful. Some are judgemental cows who don’t know shit.

Additionally, if your child was weighed only twice - at birth and now - then it’s not really the case that they’ve been slim their entire life and are suddenly obese. One or both measurements might be wrong.

I’d carry on, probably dropping the FF.

Ditch the health visitor, op.

To be fair brown bread isn't recommended at that age due to the fibre content.

I don’t think you’re giving too much food at all. And I find health visitors are often very badly informed when it comes to extended breast feeding (anything after six months in fact). Our daughter wasn’t even one and the health visitor was effectively guilting me for breastfeeding her! I basically ignored her and all is well - DD is 21 months, still breastfeeds at night (we co sleep), I give her similar amounts of food to what you give your daughter, and she’s a good weight. As soon as they become more mobile (crawling/ walking) the jam-roly-poly phase goes away and they lose a lot of the fat. It’s completely normal.
A few other points: children under 5 should take a supplement containing vitamins A, C and D every day, unless they have more than 500ml of formula a day. www.nhs.uk/conditions/baby/weaning-and-feeding/vitamins-for-children/
A mix of refined and wholemeal carbs is best for toddlers - it’s true that having only wholemeal carbs is not good for toddlers, but a balance is what’s needed- you don’t need to ditch wholemeal altogether. Here from the NHS, look at paragraph 3: www.nhs.uk/conditions/baby/weaning-and-feeding/young-children-and-food-common-questions/
If I was to ditch anything I’d ditch the formula but give as much breast milk as she wants and as you want. If you’re happy with it it’s great. can’t tell you how helpful it’s been for us that DD is still breastfeeding when she went to nursery and started getting colds and other bugs - I never have to worry that I can’t keep her fed or hydrated if she’s off her solids.
I think you’re doing really well OP and wouldn’t worry.