I had a beautiful baby boy 7 weeks ago and mostly its all going well but I do have an awkward situation with a friend of mine. My partner and I are good friends with her and her partner. They have always been more my partners friends but because we are all in a foreign country and he doesn't connect with many people, I made a big effort with this couple.
However things have been a bit strange recently. My friend has had several rounds of IVF but it has not been successful and she is now 42. This has been something she has really struggled with and I really feel for her. I worried she would not want to see me anymore when i had the baby. Instead she has been very invasion, judgement about my choices during the pregnancy (what i ate and did, medicines i took) and very nosy now the baby is here. She always wants to know all the details of his doctors visits and every last detail of his care. I feel she may be judging me a bit and of course it must have something to do with her own desire for a child. But i am not comfortable and i don't really want her involved so much in his upbringing. I know that sounds horrible ! Her husband has been very strange with me too, never congratulated me on the birth of the child and generally miserable and dismissive towards me. To top it all off they bombard us with whatsapp messages and photos always wanted to be in contact and very needy ! Im getting feed up with them but really don't want bad feeling i keep waiting for them to get some sense.