To feel a sense of attraction towards female colleague

[Zaks1]

Cant believe im writing this but just need help understanding these strange emotions. Dont really know where to start. I'm a straight married woman. My colleague is a lesbian and in a relationship.

Last month I was working alongside her quite a bit and it was nice just getting to know her. Shes always been lovely to me and has even seen me cry once when i was really overwhelmed with something in my life, however i wouldn't say we were close or friends. Anyway recently every time I see her I get this feeling where I just want to be around her. The other day we were sat next to each other in a meeting and she jokingly took my notes, she then looked at me and smiled. The gaze was that little bit longer than normal and but It made me feel all warm and weird inside, I quickly cut the gaze and said something stupid. I keep thinking of her and miss her when I dont see her around.

I'm not sexually attracted to females, I've always been into guys, ive always been bit of a tomboy but I'm quite feminine in the way I dress mostly.
I don't really know what I'm asking but Aibu feeling this way?

How can you be unreasonable? You'd be unreasonable to tell her however. It's quite a common thing for straight women to get like this around lesbians and they don't like it ....it's an emotional thing, not true lesbian attraction. Also, you're married.

Take the gender out of it. Does that change your question?

You’ve got a work crush. They are married. You are married. Treat it the same as if it were a guy - ignore and move on, don’t put yourself in risky situations, don’t hang around them or seek them out. It doesn’t mean you’re a lesbian.

You're probably slightly less straight than you thought. No big deal. But you're still a married person with a work crush. Try not to dwell on it and it will pass!

It could be the idea that she might be interested in you.

It could be that your brain feels safe to then explore bisexual feelings. Being bisexual my bias is towards evidence of this. There's a bit to support the idea that women's sexuality tends to be more flexible.

Not ALL lesbians feel the same way about people bei g attracted to them - no matter what some posters might think

3scape - good point - I’m straight but have been quite flattered when lesbians have been attracted to me. I take all compliments coming my way (doesn’t happen much).

Been there myself, a long time ago but left my husband, not for the colleague as such, although giant crush is how I'd describe it. I'm now happily married to my wife. Life takes some unexpected turns.