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Wheelie Bin Princesses

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reallifegetsintheway2 · 03/09/2021 16:07

In my naice middle class area, there are multiple able bodied wheelie bin princesses who think that putting out the bins is a 'blue' job i.e. male (obviously if in male / female relationship). Worst still is those princesses who either walk past them when they return home in the car or with the pram / kids from school and wait for their (male) partner to bring them in. I admit they annoy me more. For reference, I do both, as does DH, and I am female.
Yabnu - it is a gender neutral job
Yabu - get a life, reallife

OP posts:
3scape · 03/09/2021 16:30

Can I get my husband and neighbours some pretty crowns then? As I do ours and theirs.

You're being ridiculous in whacking on your assumptions onto what is going on.

phishy · 03/09/2021 16:30

I think it's more annoying how many men seem to just get away with doing bins and mowing the lawn.

If I was in a relationship where the man only had one or two jobs, I'd also ignore the bins and leave him to it.

Alpenguin · 03/09/2021 16:31

I have arthritis in my arms and hands. I couldn’t drag an empty bin even if I wanted to. Nice to know I’m judged as a wheelie non princess because of a disability 😂😂😂

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 03/09/2021 16:31

I walk past mine. But you have to get them in from opening the door to the garden anyway which involves walking through the house anyway so whoever does them also has to walk past them. But I'm normally in a massive rush to get dinner on. Not sure why you are so annoyed by something that had absolutely no effect on your life whatsoever

ErrolTheDragon · 03/09/2021 16:32

Its a mans job. Like changing lightbulbs.

Changing lightbulbs isn't a 'man's job'. It's a 'person tall enough to reach the bulb' job.

VulvaTeeth · 03/09/2021 16:32

I know when I joined MN a few years ago, quite a lot of posts stood out to me along the lines of "DH doesn't do any of the cooking/cleaning/laundry/childcare. He takes the bins out but that's it."
It struck me as slightly weirder than the main doing absolutely nothing around the house- Doing absolutely nothing bar this one specific thing.

5128gap · 03/09/2021 16:32

No I don't do bins and if its seen as a 'blue' job and fobbed off to men thats all good with me. Maybe when I feel confident that all the other 'blue' jobs, making the rules, running the country, heading up business and industry, are being shared out equally with women I'll turn my attention to who brings in the bins.

ChequerBoard · 03/09/2021 16:33

@reallifegetsintheway2

In my naice middle class area, there are multiple able bodied wheelie bin princesses who think that putting out the bins is a 'blue' job i.e. male (obviously if in male / female relationship). Worst still is those princesses who either walk past them when they return home in the car or with the pram / kids from school and wait for their (male) partner to bring them in. I admit they annoy me more. For reference, I do both, as does DH, and I am female. Yabnu - it is a gender neutral job Yabu - get a life, reallife

On Mumsnet there are posters who think it's their right to make snap judgements about the way other people choose to divide their household chores.

Worst still is those people seem to have spent some time obsessing about said household chores. I admit this annoys me as it's clearly none of their business.

Maskedrevenger · 03/09/2021 16:33

Due to timing about 90% of the time I both put out the wheelie bins and bring them in and have done so for a few years, I’d better tell my DH he’s a prince🤴

VulvaTeeth · 03/09/2021 16:33

@ErrolTheDragon

Its a mans job. Like changing lightbulbs.

Changing lightbulbs isn't a 'man's job'. It's a 'person tall enough to reach the bulb' job.

Or, failing that, any person who can stand on the chair job.
Cyw2018 · 03/09/2021 16:34

@MurielSpriggs

This is all sounds very Essex. One of our games to pass the time in traffic is looking out for cars with a man and woman in the front seats where it's the woman driving. It's rarer than hen's teeth, and should get 5,000 points in car cricket.

In Essex, Real Men won't be driven by ladies, and Nice Ladies don't dirty their hands with vehicles unless there's no other choice Grin

I'm a paramedic in a rural area and so I do a ridiculous number of miles at work therefore I 'expect' to be chauffeured by DH when we are both in the car together in order to get a break from driving. He learnt very quickly early in our relationship that this was how it was going to be!!
EveningOverRooftops · 03/09/2021 16:34

I walk past mine a lot because it pisses my neighbour off and my neighbour is a bin wanker. I get it in though, usually under the cover of darkness when they can watch me 🤣

lovingtheheat · 03/09/2021 16:34

@reallifegetsintheway2

Fair dos if you have health issues. But if its empty it's quite light?
And dirty so typically I'll happily walk past them if I'm in the middle of something or in a rush and either deal once I have time to put away and properly wash my hands (yes sometimes I have that little time) or leave for my husband.
BlackberrySky · 03/09/2021 16:34

It sounds like the real issue is that you are annoyed at neighbour's bins sullying the naice view for longer than necessary, OP. Take a few breaths and get over it. Presumably he brings them in that day anyway?

LukeEvansWife · 03/09/2021 16:34

I presume you spend a lot of time watching them? Hmm

Derbee · 03/09/2021 16:34

@reallifegetsintheway2

True x2. But how can people actively walk a bin and leave it for their partner to do? I couldn't that's all.
I bumped into ours with my car the other day. Still didn’t move it, and left it for DP. Didn’t really occur to me to take input in, as I never do. I guess I’m an annoying princess too 👑
CallMeNutribullet · 03/09/2021 16:35

Have you considered that most women do far more household jobs than men and bringing the bins in/out, cutting the grass and a bit of DIY are probably the only things they'll do?

No skin in this game, I'm single so do fucking everything and I walk past my bins on multiple occasions before bringing them in.

Frankly I've never noticed what jobs my neighbours do and think doing so is a bit sad.

Cheeserton · 03/09/2021 16:35

I'd suggest minding your own business and not stressing about what others do with their bins.

QueenLagertha · 03/09/2021 16:35

I'll go one better...I've been known to navigate my car around our bin by doing a 5 point turn rather than get out and move it 😂

SlatternIsMyMiddleName · 03/09/2021 16:36

I never bring the bin in. Can’t be arsed.

DahliaMacNamara · 03/09/2021 16:36

I can't physically move a full bin. Empty is fine, if a little erratic, and I do bring them back in. What I don't do is have a single clue how this chore is distributed between the sexes in my neighbourhood. Aren't there more exciting things to curtain-twitch over?

RussianSpy101 · 03/09/2021 16:37

Proud wheelie bin princess here. Although our bin cleaner puts ours back once he’s finished ;)

Mummasdiary2021 · 03/09/2021 16:37

100% princess here. I am absolutely that person. (we don't have wheelie bins, we have a bin cupboard) but other half empties it. I don't see it as a man's job.. Its just the way we split our chores. 😀

KarlUrbansWife · 03/09/2021 16:37

@QueenLagertha

I'll go one better...I've been known to navigate my car around our bin by doing a 5 point turn rather than get out and move it 😂
This is brilliant 🤣
Peanutsandchilli · 03/09/2021 16:37

What does it matter? I put our bins out more than my husband does, and I always bring them back in, as well as returning my male neighbour's bins.