Small wedding

[Jinglebells21]

Hi we are getting married in January next year. It's a small wedding with 15 in total including us then onto a restaurant for a meal then home.
My aibu is that I'm not inviting my sister and brother to my wedding but I am inviting my other sister and brother, my partner isn't inviting his only brother and mother.
Reason beings are we simply don't talk to them, have had fallings out in the past and we havnt spoken to my sister in over 2 years now.
We just want people there who we actively talk too but we are being made to feel bad about this by my parents. I have put my foot down but I do feel nervous about what they will say when they find out afterwards and I hate that what should be a happy occasion is now getting a dampner put on it.

In my experience it's best to have a blanket rule eg. all parents, no siblings, no spouses, whatever. We had a tiny wedding and had to be quite blunt about who was invited, it was hard at times. We went for parents and siblings, no aunts/uncles, no cousins, close friends plus spouses we knew well otherwise plus ones in the evening. If you're going to do it you need to be prepared that you might piss people off.

Everything pisses someone off; therefore do what suits you and shut your ears to EVERYONE'S nonsense.

You can do what you want, it's your wedding, you aren't obligated to invite anyone.

But, as PP, I would invite all from same category - if siblings are in invited then all are, if some parents are there all should be... However, you say you have spoken for 2 years, so that's a different situation.

Something very unfair would be to make your parents keep it a secret from their other children (your siblings), making them complicit in deceit for your own comfort. You then force them to be involved in your issues.

Can I also add my parents haven't the best relationship with one of my siblings but still disagrees with me, they love to play happy families but I do understand what you are saying @SummaLuvin
That's what I plan to do @heldinadream but apart of me is scared as one of my brothers and his wife love to kick off and cause drama.
I'm very close to one of my brothers, we speak everyday.

We had a small wedding - us + 20 guests. We decided we wouldn't have anyone who didn't know us as a couple. We'd been together for 18 months by that time and my sisters had never made the effort to meet my OH (I had tried to arrange meet-ups). So they didn't get invited to the wedding. It did cause some bad feeling but tbh I couldn't care less.

Our guests included my adult children and their partners, my mum and about 10 of our friends. We had a fantastic day!

Sounds like a good day with people who care about you and this is all I want too.