to think genital warts don't reappear after 20 yrs

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Husband has a genital wart. Been with him nearly 20 years, never seen it before.
He said he first had it few years before he met me in his early 20s, got it sorted out at a sexual health clinic, and every now and again a little spot has appear on the site and he never thought much of it.

Am I being taken for a ride here. Never heard a wart reappear after 20 years. Is this even possible. He swears he hasn't cheated on me. Should I just pack my bags now? WWYD?

@CornishTiger my point exactly! He said it was dealt with in his 20s (frozen off apparently) and it has only come back as a tiny spot maybe every 5 years and he thought nothing of it since I was never affected. But he should have told me?!

I would be more worried about the not telling you I the first place.

If he’s cheating he presumably will be using a condom to prevent this…

@Jangle33

If he’s cheating he presumably will be using a condom to prevent this…

Hahahahahahahahah

So he’s been exposing you to contracting genital warts each time it flares up and he never told you?
I would LTB for that alone!

In his defense in the not telling you - he probably thought that when it was frozen and removed that that was the end of it. Its not exactly something you'd want to boast about to a partner. Only now when it's relevant is he telling you about it, which I think I would have done the same as him too if I were in his position.
Its just not something you'd really announce in a new relationship "hey Bertha, I had genital warts a little while ago and it had to be frozen off. Just wanted to let you know"

Like I said, it was a few years before we met when he says he first had it, and it has never 'flared up' before. Only a tiny spot in the exact same place every 5 or more years.
This is what he says. He's willing to dig up that medical record from the clinic in Tooting he went to all those years ago to prove it's not recent.

But I also wonder why he never mentioned it. He said he thought it was dealt with when it was frozen off and didn't expect it to come back in the way it now has.. What to believe..

Yes I agree with pp that he should have told you.

I can understand him not telling you. I also don't think there's reason to suspect he's cheated based on that alone, but always trust your gut with these things. You can't trust him and that's a problem.

@Elkey yes trust is an issue. I don't think I'll ever blindly trust anyone again. I stayed with him after the cheating and he has sacrificed a lot to make sure we stay together.
We have two kids and a whole life together, but I promised myself I would leave if the cheating happened again. I have no other reason to suspect it has apart from this wart.

It can… this same virus is also assiciated with cancers turning up in other parts of the body too, so it could be a hell of a lot worse. I understand your (logical) fear, but if evidence appears to show that he is telling the truth, then I think that you should believe him.

My friend had the same, had hers frozen off 9 years ago. They told her they will always come back - you never know when.

I had a flare when pregnant (oh the shame, I remember going to get them frozen off while pregnant) but they haven’t recurred since then, so nearly 7 years ago. I fully expect them to rear their heads if I get pregnant again though, as the nurse said it was common. I’d be a little annoyed if your H hadn’t told you about a previous infection with warts as the virus stays in your body forever.