To ask to file for divorce

[november90]

Ex husband walked out on me almost 2 years ago (I was 5 months pregnant with second child). We have to wait the file 2 years to divorce legally but I really want to register it. I don't know why it's important to me, but it is. Maybe I don't want to be taken back by the paperwork, maybe I just want it for my own closure, maybe I want a bit to control on this ending after how I've been treated by him.... I'm not sure! But anyway, I want us to pay the bill 50/50 and I'm not sure how to approach it, if I sound petty or what to do!

Could you claim adultery and not have to wait 2 years

Surely it's just a case of...

"Hi...it will have been two years on X date so we are able to file for divorce. I'm keen to get the ball rolling so suggest I apply as soon as we're able. I'm fine with doing the paperwork/admin. The fee is £X so I propose we split this 50/50. Please can you transfer your share (£x) before X date?

My bank details are xxxxx."

I sympathise. I am waiting until next year to file for a no fault divorce. There is plenty of faults on his side but he will be awkward if I do it now. Writing to him as pp suggests is perhaps best, he instigated the separation after all. I hope it goes well for you.

I could 100% claim unreasonable behaviour in his part, but with having 2 children I don't want to cause bad air (even though he has never cared about this!) so I've just got a few more months to wait it out.
Do I sound petty?

I don't think you sound petty at all and I can totally see the temptation. HOWEVER, I would personally wait, you don't want it to get nasty and drag on. Keep it clean, take the moral high ground and move on (if you can).

You don't sound petty and it is terribly unfair. However, this man will feature in your life for a long time and it probably isn't worth it for you in the long term to have bad feelings around.

I would apply as soon as you want. He walked out, what does he expect? I applied as soon as I could. To be honest, the divorce is likely to get a bit difficult in any case, I don't know anyone who has managed an "amicable" divorce despite everyone claiming they will be reasonable. The initial fee isn't that much and you can tick a box when you make the application to get him to pay it, I'd just do that.