to want to scream "Please give my baby back NOW" to my in-laws

[ManchesterMummy]

Okay I know I'm probably being a bit unreasonable here, but yesterday I had to spend an entire evening watching my poor 7.5-week-old DD being passed from in-law to in-law at a family party. Worst was when MIL sat her by the fire as she'd decided DD was too cold and tried to force-feed her as she'd decided DD's little wimper was hunger. It wasn't. It was "for God's sake give me back to my mummy". Even when the wimper turned into full-blown crying, I still wasn't allowed to take her. DD jiggled and bounced around (which she hates), crying gets worse, so we leave (thank God).

Seriously, is it too much to ask? Give the crying baby back it's parents? I'm a first time mum so every day presents something new (and I'm also prone to not wanting anyone else involved hee hee and first to admit it!), but have I missed something?

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YANBU. But YABU in thinking that you weren't 'allowed'. Events have forced me to develop a thick skin and keen sense of what I will and won't put up with wrt family. You feel she needs to come back to you, you take her back.

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no you're not being unreasonable. Its not really a pfb thing, she IS very small and if she is crying she DOES need her mother.

Next time, just take her. I generally go for not falling out over stuff, but tbh I think you do need to establish a line here. Especially if she is criticising your parenting.

YANBU - I'm a 2nd time mum with a clinging 11month old and when he needs his mum he needs his mum - he does not need my MIL to take him out for a walk for 1/2 hour in the cold because she thinks he is tired and this will clearly settle him!

Mostly people think they are trying to hep to give you a break but the cry goes right through you and yet you know how to stop it!

does cod flip a coin when deciding how to post?

YANBU btw as everyone else has said.
You are in charge of keeping your baby happy and secure, you can grab her any time with a quick 'sorry, know you'll think I'm mad but she's a bit worried!'.

the anti cod is not cod btw

Do you know, I feel quite a lot better now - I thought I was being a wee bit sensitive, but at least I'm not completely cracking up for wanting to kill all the offending in-laws! The other way I can avoid all this is not to go anywhere where there are likely to be in-laws for the time being: happy mummy = happy baby, right? So I guess I'll be leaving the country between now and Christmas then...

bohemianbint - I'm in the Bury area. Whereabouts are you?

i know - cod posted YABU higher up though, i think?

she did thought i was imangining it

which following other posts, none of which I can be quite arsed to remember now, implies tum-te-tum-te-tum, file nails, pick up newly-minted 20p with said nails, flip, oh look,its tails, that's YABU then. No hold on, that's YANBU... oh, whatever, where are my woolly typing gloves?

manchestermummy. YANBU!! it is them , not you. wait till your on your 3rd/4th. you'll just bloodywell tell them,and then you'll get accused of havin post natal blues etc etc.! youve just got to smile sweetly but be assertive, its a skill to learn that goes with the territory. good luck!