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...to still fancy my first boyfriend?!

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TwinklyfLightAttendant · 02/12/2007 17:28

I just googled him. he is very beautiful. Successful, educated, well the list goes on.

Aggggghhhhhh

It was about 15 years ago...

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TwinklyfLightAttendant · 02/12/2007 17:53

...actually we never...ahem...we were very young

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TwinklyfLightAttendant · 02/12/2007 17:53

That's why I am so intent isn't it? I need to shag him!Once and for all!

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Bonaventura · 02/12/2007 17:58

I just read one of his reviews, where he uses words like "normativeness" and "protopolitical". I hope he didn't talk that way when he was your b/f. A bit of a downer in the bedroom, hmm?

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TwinklyfLightAttendant · 02/12/2007 18:05

He always talked like that...hmm

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TwinklyfLightAttendant · 02/12/2007 18:05

I would not have a clue what he was on about

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Camillathechicken · 02/12/2007 18:15

franca... sorry ! yes, FA you need to get it out of your system...

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TwinklyfLightAttendant · 02/12/2007 18:21

I will let you know...

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TwinklyfLightAttendant · 05/12/2007 04:17

Eek. I feel distraught. I emailed him saying how are you, etc. and guess what, he wrote back saying 'although it would be nice to see you in many ways, I'm not sure it's a good idea for either of us right now'. That is a big brushoff, non?

I didn't sound like I fancied him, or anything, in fact I didn't even suggest meeting up.

He also says, 'Last time we met in odd circumstances', which I have no idea what he means by that...except he was in love with someone, and decided to snog me...we got interrupted by Ds1 though just as things were getting well, you know!

I just feel really upset, why would he say that about not being a good idea?

Gosh I didn't realise how much it would mean to me whether he thinks well of me or not

I guess he has just moved on.

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soopermum1 · 06/12/2007 12:17

awe, i felt the same til i saw a pic of my ex on facebok. gawd, he looks awful, made me feel great

bevjotom · 06/12/2007 18:59

i still fancy my first boyfiend ! but then i am married to him

StarofBethleCam · 06/12/2007 19:03

Twinkly, never try to revisit the past........

themulledsnowmanneredjanitor · 06/12/2007 19:05

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camillathechicken · 06/12/2007 19:11

well, you can put it to bed now, so to speak ! we all love you ! tis over with, leave him and his pursy lips and soulful eyes to someone else

DrNortherner · 06/12/2007 19:11

Twinkly, don't know if anyone has mentioned, but the web page you linked to is it his blog?

If so he may well be intrigued by a surge in hits and follow them to MN then trace it to you and read these comments on here. It has happenned before.

Just so you are aware.

MaeBee · 06/12/2007 19:17

i still fancy all my exes. i thought that was normal?!

themulledsnowmanneredjanitor · 06/12/2007 19:19

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bubblagirl · 06/12/2007 19:24

i will always love my first love although very happy with my dp

my heart will always hold a space for him life bought us back together a few times and each time something got in the way so i guess it wasnt meant to be

i think he was bought into my life to show me how to love and feel love dbut to take them feelings forward and no thaat soul mates do exist but doesnt always mean you'll end up together

you never know maybe in another life or somewhere in the future if my dp and i were not together which i hope we still are

but first loves are in your life for a reason to teach you and to learn from but sometimes left as just a very happy although sometimes sad memory

themulledsnowmanneredjanitor · 06/12/2007 19:27

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wilbur · 06/12/2007 19:30

Went out to a Uni reunion recently, uni boyfriend was there. It was lovely to see him - he's married with children and so am I - and we had a good chat. I later found out he made a lunge at one of our mutual friends while drunk later on that night. Not sure whether I am that he lunged (since he is married) or that he didn't lunge at me. Arf.

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TwinklyfLightAttendant · 07/12/2007 07:19

Thanks girls. No, not a blog, I think it was part of another site of some organisation he's involved with. I wondered if he could check - well I think he might be a bit offended at my 'sharing' him in such a coarse manner, but I hope if he did read it he knows just how much I think of him, and goes away feeling quite chuffed - in a weird kind of way!

[paranoid now]

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TwinklyfLightAttendant · 07/12/2007 07:25

It's a googlepages.com page. I don't think you can trace hits from one of those, can you? It's different to your own website apparently...

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bubblagirl · 07/12/2007 09:48

we got together when i was 16 he was my first and my first love

then we broke up yr later i got with a horrible person for few yrs

we got back together had too many issues from last relationship

tried again about a yr later i felt to young to settle

i'm going on 28 now very happy with dp but of course ex didnt ever hurt me or do anything wrong was always there to pick me up when i was down

so will always feel sad for how i treated him and we talk now he still loves me which is sad

but we are soul mates even if we are only meant to be friends we are not in contact all the time but have an understanding that no matter what we are always there if we ever need each other

i concentrate on my dp and ds and am very happy but you never truly forget your first love

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