Daughter and me both ill

[Notgettinganyyounger23]

My daughter always expects so much and i try to help her as much as possible. I work full time, she visits most days when i finish work and i babysit as soon as as i finish work on a Friday until the next day and she normally turns up and then just stays. I had grandson Friday night and he wonder in the night with a sickness bug. I was up all night. My daughter and I have both now caught it. I can't get out of bed, as its bank holiday my partners here and pickedv grandson up and bought him here for an hour to give her a rest. Trouble is grandson knows I'm here and keeps crying for nanny, i just don't want it. 3 hours later I've phoned her and she's most upset she has to collect him. I think as my partners here she thinks we should have him, i dont know what to think .

If your partner went and got him, then your partner needs to look after him or return him (depending on the arrangements your partner made with her). She may not be well enough to come collect him.

Your daughter needs to grow up and parent her own child (I’m assuming there’s no Dad on the scene). I cannot imagine thinking it was appropriate for me to impose on my mum every Friday evening for childcare and then spend the rest of the weekend and every evening hanging around. In these particular circumstances it’s kind of your partner to help out but now it’s time for her to take the child back. It’s unpleasant but looking after your child when you’re sick is part of being a parent and hardly something you as the grandparent is going to find any easier.

I think it's a bit off of your partner to collect him and then insist that she collect him. If you can't even get out of bed how is she supposed to drive there and back without spewing her guts up?

It's fair enough he goes home if your partner really cant cope but he needs to return him.

Partner should take the child home again, explaining that you are ill in bed and can't look after him.

She will have to manage. I had three children under 3 and didn't expect my mother to look after them. It's shit when you're ill - but it's part of being a parent. (As you know). It's not part of being a grandparent, however. One of the joys of being a grandparent is you can give them back.

Also, I note that your partner brought child for an hour to give her a rest. Why is he still there 3 hours later? She's taking the piss.

We’ve all been there, sick yourself whilst you child is sick, it’s bloody awful. She’s lucky she’s had an hour to her self whilst you DP looked after the baby. She needs to get her child now and look after it, she sounds a bit of a crappy mum. Do you really have your grandson every Friday over night? Is she young or is there an underlying problem?

It’s her baby, not yours… she needs to grow up and start acting like a mum

Why are you allowing your daughter to take advantage of you like this? She's taking the piss and should be ashamed of herself. Put your foot down and say no more free childcare until you feel up for it, if ever.

Either your partner looks after the child or takes the child home

"My daughter always expects so much"

Sounds like there's a pattern of entitlement here.

Partner should either look after him or take him home.

It’s not on you to push yourself to look after your grandson when you’re ill.

You’re letting your daughter take advantage of you. Her child so she needs to look after him. You need to be tougher.