To expect people to serve themselves at the carvery with the spoons provided ..

[LIZS]

not their fingers ? dh drew my attention ot a mum repeatedly going up and getting a handful of veg to offer to her toddler, about 15 months old. Personally I find this sort of meal less than ideal hygiene and food quality wise anyway but what could possibly be wrong with using the serving spoons and a plate !

I'm trying to think of a response. I can't quite formulate my thoughts.

What is a carvery exactly?

This is a carvery.

YANBU

So it's a sort of hot buffet? Sorry.

And this woman was plunging her hands into the cabbage and putting it in her toddlers mouth? That is quite odd!

Yes that's right except we had an offering of mashed swede, sliced carrots and overcooked broccoli. She was picking these bits out with her fingers and returning to her table with a handful.

YANBU - you should have said something to her. There's no way I would have stood there and watched the dirty bitch plunge her hand into a bowl of food that I was next in line to be served from.

Filthy chav scum.

hmmm

dirty bitch and filthy chav scum is possibly going a bit too far

certainly bad manners

i would have told one of the staff, they could have had a word, and put food out that had not been manhandled

I would have pointed it out to the staff and asked them to speak to her and also to bring out fresh veg. Yuk! YANBU

I agree about the dubious nature of the food hygiene etc

But that would drive me wild

She didn't strike em as fitting that label tbh . And he was obviously a pfb ! Maybe we should have spoken to staff but they weren't exactly attentive !

Why was she a chav because she put her hands in food? Yet another social description of the poor turned into a general insult of undesirableness

I personally find that people referred to as 'chav' by others often have an extremely squeamish, pincessesque attitude to getting their hands sticky, not at all how the op is describing this grubby slattern!

I don't think it would have bothered me all that much.

I'm sure she was just picking it up with her fingers not grabbing fistfuls of suede - or was she?

Though why she didn't just drop it onto a plate, I don't understand that, why did she carry it all the way back to the table in her hands?

After all, you've no idea who last touched your plate or your knife or fork or glass or anything when you eat out do you?

yanbu

I always do carveries right at opening time for this very reason.

From a practical view, with a little one who is not rally having their own meal, the obvious thing to do is to get extra veggies on your own plate and give them to the toddler as and when.

A carvery is typically a place where you get freshly sliced roast meat, and then you help yourself to the vegetables, gravy and sauces.

As a family, we quite like a chain called Toby Carvery (our local one is fine - no idea about the others). It is one of the places that we can afford as a family of seven.

Kids under 5 ate free btw so he could have his own plate although we 've done as you suggest in the past elsewhere. She didn't do it to the swede that I noticed and maybe she wasn't actually fingering the remaining food(kept warm in deep, lidded containers, yummy) but it struck me as unnecessary. Since the carver used the same carving fork for meat and to dish up potatoes I was kind of already resigned to it not being the nicest of meals.

It does leave something to be desired - makes me think about the peanuts on the bar story, the one with all the urine samples on. yesterday sat in a pub a child of about 9-10 was eating her chips and dipping each chip in the tomato sauce. Problem was the sauce was in a dish which is then passed around the rest of the dinners in the pub, no one had told the child to put the sauce on the plate with the teaspoon provided consequently the sauce had her germs in from her fork - not nice

whats a pfb?

LIZS

I never had you down as a carvery [shudder] kind a gal. TBH

PFB

Precious First Born.

Yuck. Dirty mare. There is enough potential for food poisoning at a place where food is kept out on display and warmed for hours without some ignoramus sticking her fingers in the grub.

lol Bree - believe me, not by choice !

OOh that is seriously disgusting and not acceptable behaviour at all. Perhaps she was part of some rural tribe who didn't use utensils at home ? Either way I would have said it was incumbent on you to inform the staff as it is a bit unhygenic.

However I sense a lot of social snobbery about carveries. There was an article in the times magazine about a couple of years ago singing the praises of the Toby Carveries. I think they are fab, they offer a great selection of veg and are affordable for most people. For those who haven't been I suggest a trip with family to get over your preconceptions, even if you hate it you won't have spent much money.

thats disgusting nasty unhygenic person