Definitely unreasonable - short tempered since baby

[Mamamovingnorth]

I am such a short tempered bitch since having my baby 4 months ago. Not with my DD or DH but anyone else who comes in, I just can’t deal. Included my lovely mum and mother in law who are amazing with her but I feel like they’re always poking and picking her up. I just get white rage. It’s so unreasonable. I feel like I’m losing it.

I’ve snapped my mum and sister over it and I just have to leave the room when DMinlaw is round. They all really love DD and I’m definitely being completely unreasonable.

DD is a Covid baby and I’m so protective of her, even though I know how safe and loved she is by the family. Any suggestions as to how I can calm down and stop being such a bitch?

Why do you think your short tempered? Lack of sleep/ anxious about something?

I’m sure they understand this isn’t usual but they might be concerned

Blimey you hormones are still all over the shop, and you will be exhausted. Don’t be so tough on yourself.

Can you have an open chat with your partner - explain that your are feeling completely strung out right now, and need to talk about how to control the things you can a bit better - perhaps you can shorten and reduce family visits for now? And how can yo get more rest? (Can’t suggest how without more info.) it might also be worth a chat with your HV re PND if you think there could be a bit of that too.

But overall - a small baby is exhausting and overwhelming - so don’t hold yourself to unreasonable standards

This is how my pnd presented itself - and I had no idea. Was only after my second that someone pointed it out and I started medication. I'm like a different person and can't believe none of the professionals I approached after my first could identity what was going on.