Partner or second child?

[Miasmom]

I’m completely out of ideas now. My partner just doesn’t do any household chores at all! When I ask, he gets angry and says he was then going to do it- he was not. Then continues not to do said chore until I end up having to do it or it won’t get done. I’ve just had a hernia operation and am struggling to move around as it is. My house is an absolute mess, I’m trying to keep it clean without hurting myself but It’s very messy. What should I do? We have fun together out of the house but as soon as we are home he finds any excuse not to even be able to load his own things into the dishwasher. We have a daughter but she is staying with my parents for 2 weeks whilst I heal from my surgery. I dread to think of what the house will look like by then. He is a very good dad to her and she loves him dearly. Please help!

I don't think we can help... He needs to help. He lives in the house, he has a responsibility to look after it as much as you.
I don't think I'd stay with someone who treats me like their skivvy, especially whilst recovering from an operation.

How is he a good dad? What does he do to be a good dad?

He doesn’t sound like a good dad or partner
Can you pay for a one off deep clean then agree with “d”h how you can ensure it stays clean moving forward?

Or could you also stay with your parents to have some space and leave the house to him
It’s either sorted when you get back or that’s it

Can he pay for a cleaner? Saying it to him might make he rethink not doing his share. I do understand how annoying it is!

Is this a new development in his behaviour? Or wasn't an issue for you until you had your operation?

Do you want to be away from your child for two weeks or do you just not trust her dad to care for properly while you recover?

Stop doing anything for him, no washing, cooking, cleaning

Just get better

Then have a conversation about splitting chores

He is not a good father or partner.

He doesn't give a damn about you.

Your relationship bar is on the ground and he knows it.

By having a child with a selfish lazy man, this is where you are at and this is where you will stay until you want a better life.

He shuts you down with anger.

Nasty man.

You deserve better.
Your daughter deserves better.

But this is it, until YOU realise the above.

Go stay with your parents and your child.
When you are recovered, leave the lazy selfish bastard.

What does the title mean? Surely you aren't thinking about having another child with him?
He's not likely to change is he?