To think my friend should keep quiet

[Troubleandstrife79]

My long-term friend has had a bit of a hard time recently losing both parents within 3 months. Added to this she has a full time job , and is the main carer for her two young children as her husband works 7 days a week
I get the sense that she has been feeling very unsupported and despite appearances is struggling with drinking too much and not managing her grief.
She used to live in another area and has confided in me that when she went recently she kissed (while drunk) a man she used to be friends with around ten years ago.
She cannot remember the event and had to ask how she had gotten home etc. There was no other contact but the kiss ,however she has told me she wants to tell her husband.
I have advised her to say nothing for the time being, for all I don't condone cheating I feel like this is very much a one off and she actually needs counselling and support . Am I right to advise her to say nothing , get some support rather than possibly destroy her life over a kiss?

Its her choice alone, but if she is already struggling with drinking, I'm not sure keeping this secret will do her any favours.

I’d be inclined to agree with you but depends if she’s strong enough to handle keeping a secret, some people need to unburden.

Definitely not advisable but she could be on a bit of a self destruct mission and want to throw a grenade in proceedings, espy with her dh who she’s obviously upset with. Has he been working throughout this difficult time?

Yeah I think there's definitely an element of self destruct , they have been together 8 years and as far as I'm aware had the usual ups and downs but on the whole are happy. The kiss is really out of character , which is why I'm asking she get support rather than throw a grenade at her life as you've mentioned @Karwomannghia.
He's worked the whole time including going to work the day after her mum passed.
She's not blaming him though , I honestly think she is headed for a breakdown

Poor woman! OMG, yes she needs to stay quiet and just try to find time and space to breathe.

You sound like a good friend.