Am I being pathetic

[Tresamigos]

Dd 3 starts pre school part time next week, I keep secretly crying about it. She’s my only and we waited ten years to have a child, I won’t be able to have another. It’s just been her and I at home for three years, it’s been hard work and I need a break, but it’s also been the happiest I’ve ever been. It seemed like yesterday she was sat on the floor and o pushed her for long walks in the buggy..sad I won’t have that again.
She’s very confident and independent and it’s the best thing for her and I definitely need time alone, I just cry

*I pushed her

Good grief, wait until they start going off to uni like mine!

Don't project your angst onto her as she'll pick up on it and may cling to you making it worse. Going to playgroup is good for her, children need to play with other children and learn how to socialise to get them ready for school. She'll have great fun and you'll enjoy your few hours of peace - and before you know it it'll be time to pick her up again!

You are not being pathetic Op.

But you are in such a fantastic bit of parenting. Your dd and you will continue to have brilliant times together. This is just the start of another phase of being a mum, of which there are many.

Totally normal to feel like this, as long as you don’t show it (which I am sure you don’t). There are lots of great thing that will open up as she gets older, and you will interact more and more as two individuals. Try and embrace that and also make your you do something with your new free time - and plan forward for how you will change your life as she moves to FT school.

@Hellotoallmyfans She has lots of little friends as we meet up with mum friends, but I’m always there, in the background. It’s like entering another phase as will miss the mum catch ups too, I’ll just be dropping her, then going home, feels weird!

She’s going to preschool part time, not moving out! You’ll still get to do lots of lovely things with her, you’ll still see other parents if you want to (I seem to spend half my life on the school gate/at the playground/at after school activities chatting to parents and mine are school age) and it will all be fine. My experience is that the early primary years are absolutely lovely.

I was ok up until today, excited for her and I, now it’s hit me and I just hope they’re nice with her.
That time as a baby just went so fast, it wasn’t long enough-although crazily I remember it being such hard work, eurgh I’m a mess 🙈

You’re not being pathetic but you are going to have to toughen up a bit.

Before you know if she is going to be in full time school

I think it would help if I had another baby 🤣

Your are not pathetic to be sad your life is changing and dynamics with your child on a day to day basis and wanting your children around you is no shame.
Just think of the next steps and the positive impact on her- making friends, birthday parties and getting her own independence ready for starting school as all these things help children.

@Tresamigos

I think it would help if I had another baby 🤣

Only for four years then you'd be back here again. Look at it this way - she is developing normally. That is something to be grateful for. I don't think you are pathetic, not at all but it can't have been a surprise that children grow up! If she's confident and independent then you're obviously doing a great job.

@ViciousJackdaw Yes, I doubt very much she’ll be crying for me 😅

@Amiaeful86 I know, she’ll love it

You’re not being pathetic OP it sounds like you’ve had some lovely years together

You're not being pathetic at all, it's normal to feel sad at the end of an era. Some of the replies on here are very unfeeling at times. Yes there will be some more emotional times ahead but you're allowed to feel sad even though you know she'll love it.
I'm sure you'll find something to keep yourself busy, don't dedicate all your free time to housework etc x

Well, if you are being a bit pathetic, then I think most of us mums have been at some point.

You are completely normal. It's okay to be upset about it. You'll get there, and it will all be fine.

Totally understandable, I missed my two but when she's settled in and you've got used to it you might find you enjoy those couple of hours to yourself.
It is tough though when you feel like it's the end of that particular stage. I remember feeling unexpectedly emotional when my oldest son didnt want to pack Teddy to go on holiday, now that is pathetic lol. I don't think Teddy cared