How much childfree time is too much?

[Seaglass87]

I have a 2.5 year old and following breastfeeding and lockdown I've started to try and get a bit of a life back for myself.
My Mum has made comments about me always being busy and implied I have too much child free time.
The care rarely falls on her (we have 5 groups of people who ASK to have her) so I don't think it's because of this and her feeling I put too much on her?
I don't think my time away from my daughter is excessive, but obviously opinions vary so I'm looking for some varying perspectives on what time other parents have away from their child/ children?
For info I normally see friends once every 3 weeks and my husband and I have a date night once every 4 to 6 weeks.

Your mother is being very unreasonable. She should mind her own business. You should aim to have some "me" time at least once a week.

Sounds like your mum is either "forgetting" how much child-free time she had when she had small children or she is upset because she had none and is upset you have it better than she did. Either way, I think the way to solve it is to spend less time with her. You have very little child-free time.

One of my relatives had his parents look after the children 2-3 times a week after school or nursery until the children's bedtime, the MIL had them several weekend days a month and his two SILs also looked after his kids sometimes. His mum was the one to take the kids to the dentist or doctor. When he talks about being a father I am thinking to myself "When were you a father? You spent less time with them than your parents did."
But none of my business. So I am not saying anything. If he and his wife couldn't cope with looking after the kids it was probably best for the kids to be elsewhere.