Work place - unhealthy

[Rocktheboat87]

I haven't worked in a office environment before so wondering if I was expecting too much have been in customer service previously.

Things that either confuse or bother me a little:

• I always make a point to say hi to everyone when I come in. I have to walk past them. Some just go to their desk and only talk to their colleague or just don't really talk to anyone at all except when work things need talking
• My colleague doesn't seem to know when to let work things go. When I finish for the day i'm done with it. Sometimes feels like others make it difficult for management for no reason
• The office feels clicky, sometimes I think if I didn't say anything to anyone they wouldn't talk to me. I admit I don't share anything too personal, partly because I don't think they care but also because it could be ammunition for jokes.
• There are some terrible nick names here, HR would have a field day
• I may be see my manager every few months
• Possible that if the salary was lower none of us would be here
• Occassionally drinks and things happen but I've not been to one or been asked partly because of shifts
• I left late once because someone didn't realise I was here and said if they'd realised earlier I could have gone

I know some of this will feel like i'm just ranting but never had these issues before in any other job.

Some workplaces are clicky, but sometimes it just takes people a while to warm up to new colleagues. If you’re not chatty and open why would you expect them to be?

Saying good morning is normal when you get in but not everyone will acknowledge you if they’re busy working. If they’re sat around drinking tea then yes it’s rude to ignore your greeting.

The last one - couldn't you have just said "Bye!" at the end of your shift, or asked to go?

I don’t want to be that person but it’s ‘cliquey’, not ‘clicky’ meaning a clique of people. Click and clique are two very different words.

Aside from that, I totally understand. I had a job where there was a very definite clique. They were awful and even getting up to go to the toilet they would make a comment and pretend to time you,

Sounds like poor management and it’s a shame you haven’t had a better induction.
You asked if it was typical. I’ve worked in many offices and only one with a miserable culture like your one. Maybe a hangover from pandemic working. I know in my place we are missing the usual office bonding type things - even just sharing food or going to cafes together.
You can only either put up with it, raise it with your manager or move.
Sorry your colleagues aren’t more welcoming.

Sounds totally normal.

You don’t need to be everyones friend.
If you want monthly 1-2-1s ask.
Leave when you are due to leave.

Thanks guys, just worked out how to see the responses. Doesn't help that there is a row of monitors and I'm sort of in the corner. Sometimes it's like a boys club in here, inappropriate conversation. I admit that yes I don't open up that much but partly because I get the impression they don't care. It's a real mix in here.

It does depend on who is on though. I did tell someone the other day I was going to Greece or hoping to. It's sparked very different reactions. one person most interested another asked one question and then got bored.

I didn't have this in my many previous roles so might just be this office. The inuendoes are almost constant