I'll try and keep this as brief as possible, DSIL who I highly suspect has undiagnosed ASD lives in another country and doesn't have any friends, she's never married or had any children. I normally will speak to her once a week not because I want to but because I feel I have to due to the fact that she lives quite a lonely life. The problem is all she talks about is herself and moaning, you can hardly get a word in and it feels like a one way conversation. She also can be selfish, when PIL's were alive and she'd come over to visit she wanted the carers who saw to my PIL's to cook her meals as well, moaning how early the carers were coming and once tried to get the postman to come inside and cut a chicken for her because she couldn't due to her arthritis. All of DH's sibling have given up on her and avoid speaking to her much as they can, leaving me the only one from the family who keeps in touch with her. What would you do in my situation?