AIBU to just want to sleep longer than half an hour

[Modog]

My other half is ill. Seriously ill.
But he is being the patient from hell.
I can put up with spending hours shopping then cooking a meal only for him to say he's not hungry.

He is seriously ill.

I can put up not being able to go anywhere on my own anymore.(except to buy more food he won't eat)

He is seriously ill.

But what is driving me to the edge of madness is the fact that for eight months now I have only slept for an hour or so at a time.

Sorry to say that my DP passed away today ....just back from the hospital and needing my bed.

Thank you all for your sensible suggestions and support

So sorry to hear that, Modog. I hope you can find some peace you did a wonderful thing, caring for him so selflessly.

Thank you so much....I am just about to get to bed and hope I can catch up on some sleep. He was peaceful at the very end

Oh I am so very sorry. Sending peace and love to you.

This is such a nurturing site. I wish it had been around when my children were small. It truly is women caring for each other.
Thank you Mumsnet and everyone who posted

I am so sorry.

Oh OP i'm so sorry 😢 what a sad update. I hope your doing ok and have some support

Both of my children have been there for me today (not our children ,we got together too late for that) I am on my own tonight but,to be honest ,I think I need to be.
In some ways it's good that it is bank holiday weekend as nothing will start happening until Tues

Poor you OP, I am so sorry for your loss

You’ve been through a lot. Be kind to yourself and take care

I am so sorry to hear that your DP passed away.

Must be horrendous but I guess also a bit numb right now?

Thank goodness you were able to access this site to have a good vent when you needed it.

I'm so very sorry op

So sorry for your loss OP. You have been so selfless caring for your late DH and now please look after yourself.

Oh goodness! I didn’t realise this was older - I’m so sorry OP.

I’ll ask for the previous to be deleted.

I’m so sorry for your loss.

So very sorry to hear your news OP

You have done a tremendous job caring for your partner through terminal illness. It is seriously difficult.

Take time to be kind to yourself

So sorry for your loss. I hope he knew how well you cared for him to the end.

I'm so sorry, OP.

Obviously he was very ill, but sleep deprivation is still torturous and can make you ill too, so I hope you won't beat yourself up over it. The stress of caring on top of sleep deprivation is enough to drive anyone round the bend, however much they love someone.

I hope you find peace.

Oh OP, I'm so very sorry

OP I'm so sorry, please take time to look after yourself amongst being thrown into the midst of all the horrific admin and organisation that needs to be done when someone passes away. I hope you can get a some sleep as you say.

I've reported your post to Mumsnet to see if they can update your initial post so you don't keep getting people posting with advice on the original issue if they haven't read the full thread.

So sorry for your loss xx

I think my sleep patterns are seriously fucked up. I sleep for two hours and then wake at midnight. Haven't slept again and its 4am . I may need sleeping tablets although they have never agreed with me.

My DP had oesophagal cancer (still can't spell it) a really vicious illness. He lost so much weight because he couldn't swallow and couldn't have treatment because of secondaries, he was given 6 months and managed 3 months and 2 days.

I'm not surprised you're not sleeping properly. What an awful few months you must have had. Do you have good support around you? I think all you can do in these situations is not have any expectations on yourself and take things very easy. Do what you need to do to look after yourself.