to be annoyed at this jobcentre guy?

[laurliemonkey]

ok, i know he's doing his job and everything but.... (and yes, i am a parent on benefits but dh works so ner

but i had my 3 month unemployment interview and walked home in tears because of such things said as 'you should double the amount of time spent looking for a job' (what, from 4+ hours a day? there aren't that many jobs in the country)

and 'you should get temp work' (impossible, given the childcare situation)

and saying i was fussy when i said 'i'd be happy to do inbound call centre work, but not outbound', because i used to do it when a student and walked home everyday crying because i felt like i was conning people (i know there's been a lot of crying, and that not all inbound call centre work is like that)

and when i said, my actual problem is that i have anxiety, rendering me a wreck when interviewing, and that's why i haven't got a job, he said 'oh that's a bit of an excuse isn't it, we all get shy at times'.

well mate, newsflash, clinically diagnosed anxiety is not being a bit shy. its bluddy shit.

p.s. i am sorry for using so many brackets like that woman in the guardian does

How appalling. I wonder if you might be able to complain? I'm so sorry you went through this. He sounds like an utter nob and for what it's worth I've been through that once or twice. Some people seem to think they have the right to judge us all, and no it isn't legitimate or fair what he said - that's not doing his job, it's being mean.
Big hugs to you,

just a thought but if you Dr has diagnosed anxiety, would you be wise to get that in writing - it might take the pressure off a it if you have something to prove you're not able to work?

I remember being so anxious years ago that I went to my Dr. and he signed me off. I was really surprised it could count, even though i knew how disabling it was xx

Sorry for typos! Tis early

yes 'tis early!
thing is, i could go on disability, but don't want to, i really want a job, for my own piece of mind more than anything else

his attitude just made me so sad but then grrr, you know how it is, walking home, wishing you'd said more to him.

i just hate the attitude that all jobseekers are lazy gits, whereas i would give anything to be in a decent job. if only i could find a magical employer, who would see through my interview rubbishness, through to the real me who would work her arse off!

sorry im ranting a bit now

p.s. i don't wanna complain, as he was the manager of the jobcentre i go, and don't (and can't) lose that money but if i get a job soon, i will be writing a long letter to someone about a lot of the staff's attitudes.

i must admit to sitting there sometimes thinking 'hey, i could do your job, and i'd be a country mile more sympathetic and helpful than you'

Understood
It's useful to rant about these things!
Hope you find a job that suits you.
And yes, I am sure you could do a better job than him!!

does anyone on mn work in a jobcentre? hoping they could give me some advice about a sort of related issue?

They're w*nkers in the jobcentre. Really label everyone who goes in there low-life scum but we're not, are we? I'd make a complaint about him personally. Even if you do complain, it's not him that can make the decision whether you get the money - it's the governments choice.

im thinking about it, lola. i know i'm just being paranoid about him stopping my benefits but need to find the person higher up than him.

i mean, i know there are some people who aren't bothered looking for a job, but there's no need to think everyone's the same. grrr

and now im ranting again

I do feel for you. Dh was on job-seekers allowance and they wanted me to go in for an interview to explain why I wasn't looking for work. I was 32 weeks pg at the time. Our nearest job centre is 25 miles away and they wanted me to drive over there to confirm my "position". FFS.

Just because we are on benefits we are not scum of the earth

miaou- my dh was called in to ask why he could not get me a job as he runs his own business employing ten staff. eh, because i'm not suitably qualified and know nothing about web servers!

note to self- stop ranting, stop ranting

lol laurliemonkey (well it would be funny if it wasn't so bloody annoying )

my mum was made redundant last year at 59 she was gutted, she went to the Job centre where she was treated like absolute shit, she has ALWAYS worked (original latch key kid i was) but being older, bolshy and not in desperate need of a job for financial reasons she just couldnt stand not working. She demmanded to speak to the manager and told them exactly what she thought of the attitude of the staff who had dealt with her, she she was absolutely furious at the rudeness and contemp of the staff she followed it up with a letter as well. She got a round of applause in the job centre from people who were there to sign on. she wasnt aggressive or rude unlike the staff!!!

Laurlie I am sre you will find a job soon try not to take it to heart

The jobcentre has changed where we live. YOu used to be able to go in and look on the screens. Went in there about two years ago and there was a 'security' man at the door. We just wanted to have a look at what was available and the guy said to my dh 'if it's just you looking for a job then you can come in but your family can't'

bastard think they look for a certain kind of twat to work in those places

they do treat you like sh*t in there don't they? I always felt they speak to you like you are really thick.

I agree some can be absolute jobsworths, but I have to also say some of the people that work in them are great!
I have been helped twice, once when I had split from DP and was on IS, I had to go along for an interview, once when I was a single parent and already found a job, they sorted everything for me.