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Risky, illegal behaviour of 14 year olds. Tell the school?

77 replies

deelemma · 27/08/2021 09:29

DD (14) showed me social media photos of some boys in her class smoking dope, messing about on a railway line and doing grafitti. The photos, which are on a private account, are getting a lot of 'likes' from other children the same age. All this has been going on during the holidays. Would you tell the school?

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tiredanddangerous · 27/08/2021 09:30

Yes I would tell the school.

Sirzy · 27/08/2021 09:31

Because of the railway like stuff I wouldn’t hesitate to tell the school. I would also try to get in touch with your local PCSO so they can at least watch the area or even have a stern chat.

HarrietsChariot · 27/08/2021 09:31

Tell them, but they probably won't be interested. Maybe they'll do a discussion on it in assembly but that's about it. Generally teachers don't care what goes on outside of school, or if they do, can't act on it.

plodalong12 · 27/08/2021 09:31

I wouldn’t

BlusteryLake · 27/08/2021 09:31

I would talk to their parents. I really don't think the school should be expected to deal with disciplinary affairs that occur off the school properly, out of school time and not wearing school uniform. They have enough on their plate.

WeRTheOnesWeHaveBeenWaitingFor · 27/08/2021 09:32

Can you do it anonymously?

SirVixofVixHall · 27/08/2021 09:32

@Sirzy

Because of the railway like stuff I wouldn’t hesitate to tell the school. I would also try to get in touch with your local PCSO so they can at least watch the area or even have a stern chat.
I agree. Stoned boys messing about on railway lines could end very, very badly.
CirqueDeMorgue · 27/08/2021 09:33

Probably not, what would they do?

cansu · 27/08/2021 09:34

Tell the police or the railway company. I am not sure what the school can do when they are on holiday. There is also a chance that they won't pick it up till term starts. The school do not have authority over the kids while they are on holiday and in the care of their parents.

Clymene · 27/08/2021 09:36

Tell the school and the rail company. A boy was killed last year near me doing this.

LakieLady · 27/08/2021 09:37

I'd tell the school, the police and Network Rail.

NR might be able to improve security to stop the stupid little fuckers from getting access.

AngelPrint · 27/08/2021 09:38

@HarrietsChariot

Tell them, but they probably won't be interested. Maybe they'll do a discussion on it in assembly but that's about it. Generally teachers don't care what goes on outside of school, or if they do, can't act on it.
Not true at my school. Safeguarding is taken seriously and we’d be liaising with parents and local police for this.

Definitely tell the school OP

Freddiefox · 27/08/2021 09:38

I’d tell the railway company as well

Carboncheque · 27/08/2021 09:38

Railway line? Absolutely. That’s incredibly dangerous. The rest? No.

sakuramiyagi · 27/08/2021 09:39

If they are messing about on the Railway you will need to contact British Transport Police, not your standard local force.

FictionalCharacter · 27/08/2021 09:49

@Clymene

Tell the school and the rail company. A boy was killed last year near me doing this.
Definitely tell Network Rail about the trespassing and dangerous behaviour on the railway line.
LobotomisedIceSkatingFan · 27/08/2021 09:56

Yes, without hesitation. Fucking idiots.

LobotomisedIceSkatingFan · 27/08/2021 09:57

But mostly I'd tell Network Rail and the police.

OctaviaTriangle · 27/08/2021 10:04

It's not about ' I wouldn't tell the school because what can they do about it?' ... what sort of an approach /attitude is that?

It doesn't particularly matter what the school does or doesn't do. What matters is that you've seen something that is dangerous and you've spoken out and done the best you can to put a stop to it. You've tried to help. You will have done your bit.

JudgeJ · 27/08/2021 10:06

@tiredanddangerous

Yes I would tell the school.
Surely the parents should be told first before going for the soft option of dumping even more on schools! 'Safeguarding' is first and foremost the responsibility of parents.
ikeepseeingit · 27/08/2021 10:06

Tell school and rail company. They could have died doing that.

ponyexpress22 · 27/08/2021 10:08

Definitely, I'd tell as many appropriate authorities as I could.

FrippEnos · 27/08/2021 10:19

Tell the school, the rail company and the police.

aspiecat · 27/08/2021 10:19

Yes, I'd tell school, police and rail company. Not only could they be killed, but they are influencing other kids on social media - maybe others will get involved and be the ones who end up dead, maybe their friends and a train driver and passengers will end up seriously traumatised for the rest of their lives. It's beyond just telling the parents. If this was my son (similar age) I'd be happy for the police etc to be involved - better shock them now than someone end up dead.

Sirzy · 27/08/2021 10:20

And also good on your daughter for being mature enough to show you the videos!

Hope someone can get through to them before anything bad happens