My father. I’ve had enough of him. He moved miles away years back, never bothers with any of his grandchildren, they barely know him and I don’t hear from him for months on end. He speaks to my step siblings (he moved away to be with their mother) more than he ever speaks to his biological family. Partly this is my fault as he’s virtually a stranger to me now. Whenever he pops up all he talks about is how much he misses us all and can’t wait to see us. Then just disappears again. I am sick of him letting my kids down over the years. My full sibling hasn’t spoken to him in years and he’s spent all this time only talking to me to ask me to talk to my sibling about why they won’t talk to him. It’s like inception
He’s now been gone longer than he was ever closer to me, so much time has passed.
He’s getting married (3rd time lucky) and contacted me recently to blatantly ask me to say a gushing congratulations to him because I had not responded to it on social media.
The woman is quite nice the two times I met her, she’s only 10 years older than me and her kids are younger than mine. This will be the second time he’s gone off to be a father figure to someone else’s kids and not his own, and now children younger than some of his grandkids.
He shared all his substantial inheritances with the other wives and their children and not his biological family, now he’s getting remarried it’s the same thing all over again. If I cared about the money I would be trying to keep them onside, but I don’t care about the money. I just can’t believe a. she is marrying such a man and b. why on Earth he keeps dangling little carrots that he cares when he doesn’t. Would you as a mother honestly marry a man who abandoned his kids years ago and has a load of grandkids he doesn’t even know? I don’t get it!
I blocked them both on social media. I feel mean for his poor wife to be who hasn’t done anything wrong to be honest. But have I over reacted is this part of adult life that you just suck these things up. He’s very fond of telling me I will be sad I never tried harder to have a good relationship with him when he’s dead 