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What was the first culture shock you remember having?

385 replies

MeiganMcSeinna6 · 25/08/2021 01:19

high school for me , thought it would be all sweet an innocent , Wrong

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ExpatinBritain · 25/08/2021 07:06

@SimonJT you beat me to it.

My answer still is England. Not at all what I thought it would be based on word of mouth and media. Well except the old houses - even older and dirtier than I thought. Definitely more like the third world of the first world. I still love it though because I'm used to it. It's like home to me so I can say it.

Ylvamoon · 25/08/2021 07:12

Moving from London to a small town in the Midlands ...
(Disclaimer I grew up in a village in some other EU country, moved from there to the next big city before moving to London - all fine!)

shamalidacdak · 25/08/2021 07:15

@pollyglot

Arriving in Southern England by ship 50 years ago, aged 20. Posh relatives asked what the father of my cabin mate did. I replied "Oh, he's a panelbeater." They recoiled in horror, pearl-clutching. "But, but, your father is a professional! You can't be friends with a panelbeater's daughter!" The British class system half a century ago. What a shock for a country girl from Eketahuna.
Lol!
Cosmos123 · 25/08/2021 07:23

@changingsheets

Visiting down south. The North/South decide is shocking.
Could you explain more. What was it
Words · 25/08/2021 07:25

My first job after graduation. Office working.

Absolutely hated it. Still do, thirty odd years later. Thank goodness for w f h.

MimosaFields · 25/08/2021 07:26

Trying to have a walk in a small town outside Kathmandu with my super pale 10 year old child at the time. The noise, the traffic, the derelict houses, the poverty, the amount of people .... but mostly the stares my son got! They were all very respectful and keeping their distance, but it was clear many of them had rarely seen a young pale Caucasian child before.

MimosaFields · 25/08/2021 07:32

My second one was moving to London age 18 from a sunny Mediterranean town. Those shared Victorian houses with carpets in the bathroom... They were shocking when coming from a country where we overuse bleach for cleaning

Bathtimebillie · 25/08/2021 07:33

Moving from Scotland to England as a child was mine. It probably also didn't help we moved from largely working class area shit hole to a stuck upmiddle class suburb.

I've lived in this city now for about 30 years. It likes to think of itself as a diverse, thriving city. But then you go to places like Manchester and Liverpool (which are nearby if you want to guess where it is) and realise it is really a pokey, provincial back water. I took my kids to Manchester this summer and they had their first culture shock. Grin

Elephantsparade · 25/08/2021 07:35

I got a job in a local authority after working elsewhere. So many freemasons.

NoraLuka · 25/08/2021 07:36

Arriving in Cairo at the age of 19, from a small town in the north of England. The heat, the smells, the crowds of people. I loved it but it made my head spin.

onthinice · 25/08/2021 07:37

I went to the USA aged 17. I was pretty sure it was exactly the same as the UK apart from the accent and time difference, having watched tonnes and tonnes of American teen drama on TV through my childhood. Was a complete shock to me at my young age at how different the two cultures are.

Mol1628 · 25/08/2021 07:37

Definitely being a parent! I was so young and naive.

plixy · 25/08/2021 07:41

Walking out of a toilet cubicle in France at age 12 and seeing men peeing in urinals right in front of me. I hadn't heard of unisex toilets.

Fullyhuman · 25/08/2021 07:42

@Bathtimebillie - Chester?

Tohaveandtohold · 25/08/2021 07:43

England
I grew up in a third world country however one thing I had in my town growing up was a big house, because people built their houses and labour and building materials was cheap then with lots of green outside space, our garden was as big as a small park with mango, coconut trees, etc.
The country’s economy became so bad due to bad governance and everyone started trying to relocate.
When I got to England to study, my first house was a studio flat and on the terrace, there were 6 other flats. I couldn’t believe how much flats there was in a little space with no gardens, houses joined together, it was shocking to begin with. And I had to buy mango rather than pluck it from the tree 😂😂

Also, I lived in that flat for a year and never knew my neighbours, no one spoke to each other. That’s in contrast to where I came from where every one knew each other.

People smoking and drinking openly on the street or in a park, that never happened where I came from as people tried to keep it from people if they did that.

On the upside, the better economy here makes this place a good place to live. In most cases, people don’t look down on other people’s jobs here which is something that happens always where I came from and people were always ashamed if they were handy men, etc. Things have changed there now though as lots of people are becoming enlightened

SchrodingersImmigrant · 25/08/2021 07:44

Oh my! @SimonJT and @ExpatinBritain got mine.

And
The British class system half a century ago. What a shock for a country girl from Eketahuna.
It was a shock for a girl from one of Europeans capitals too... It still is and not 50 years ago.

youvemademyshitlist · 25/08/2021 07:44

Going to 6th form college. My school didn't have a 6th form so we all left after GCSEs aged 16. My school had been really small - approx 200 pupils across years 7-11.

I went to a large 6th form. In my first week I went into the cafeteria, there were these two lads leaning against the vending machines chatting.
I walked up and politely asked if I could use the vending machine. One of them picked me up, told me to fuck off and threw me into a table.
I didn't know people could be like that. I transferred to a different college after that.

Merryoldgoat · 25/08/2021 07:46

Going to work at a local authority after 15 years in private sector.

Lasted 8 months but left 2 stone fatter and depressed.

PerseverancePays · 25/08/2021 07:48

Grew up around the Med. Came here to school and as a ‘treat’ we were taken out to swim in the North Sea! I thought they were mad. I still can’t swim in the North Sea. I love England though , always have since the first day I landed and it was so green and lush.

MydogWillow · 25/08/2021 07:49

@MysweetAudrina

Seeing the river Seine divide in Paris when I was around 23. I just stood on the bridge in awe.

Also walking through Lima. I couldn't get my head around all these people living a life that I hadn't been aware of up to then.

Off topic. Love your username. Should have made mine Flowersintheattic Smile
EmmaGrundyForPM · 25/08/2021 07:50

@araiwa

Walking out of Delhi airport
me too. I'd never been outside Europe before.
Usuallyhappycamper · 25/08/2021 07:52

I spent a few of my early years in another country. We spoke English at home and the local language out. Only there were two national languages and the idea that there could be other languages was mind-blowing. I didn't comprehend that I already spoke two.

nestletoulouse · 25/08/2021 07:52

I visited South East Asia when I was really young. We stayed in a raised house made of bamboo. There were plastic bags stuffed into the gaps to stop the rain coming through. They lived very simply but were so happy. 🙂

sadperson16 · 25/08/2021 07:53

Tinned mushroom soup. 1964.

ComeonJulia · 25/08/2021 07:54

@changingsheets in what way? I’ve lived in both and don’t see it

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