AIBU about this?

[JinglyJangly]

I dropped DH off at the pub earlier & he has just phoned and asked me to pick him up. The problem is DS (2) has just fallen asleep and is full of a cold so I really don't want to wake him up to drag him out in this weather.

I told DH to get a taxi or walk, it's about a 20 minute walk, so 5 minutes in a taxi - he went off on one and told me he has spent all his money so can't afford a taxi and won't walk because its raining .

He reckons it will be ok to leave DS asleep in his cot for 5 minutes (this is how long it will take to get to pub & back) and I told him under no circumstances am I leaving a 2yo alone in the house.

He is such a cheeky sod sometimes. He will just have to walk home right? AIBU?

Tell him he won't rust. I rarely write this (;-o) But YANBU

YANBU.

Hmmm ..... he's got to have an afternoon all to himself with adult company while you're looking after a poorly child. And HE is in a strop because he might getwet FFS.

Furthermore, he seems to think keeping his hair & clothes dry is more important than his 2 year old's safety while you spend at least 10 mins (there & back) fetching him.

I'm sorry to hear that YOU organised his dad collecting him. Can't he do anything for himself ?

I had to phone his Dad and ask him to pick him up from the pub then he came through the door and asked where his food was - yes I am married to a male chauvanistic pig .

He did actually make me a nice meal last night (quite a rarity) so I can't complain, it was Duck in plum sauce, broccoli, carrots, potatos & parsnips & it was good.

I told him next time he goes out which is next week to see the Manic Street Preachers in the CIA, he must not under any circumstances phone and ask me to pick him up .

and tell him to take you out from time to time too

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Jingly - why phone his dad? dh is not so much a mcp as a spoilt child.

Would not pick up DH in these circumstances even if DS was well. He went out, he enjoyed, he can get himself home. Out of sight out of mind for me I am afraid.

Unfortunately my DH is one of these that seems to need a support team whenever he leaves the house. He went to Athens for a week and even though DC and I had flu he was on the phone every day asking for me to check this and that on the internet for him and on the last day go to the bank and pay some money into his bank account so he could afford a taxi to the airport FFS!!! . I told where to get off in no uncertain terms so he got his Mum to do it. Now he never asks me - always rings his Mum and that suits me down to the ground.

Men totally do my head in....what is wrong with them...do they ever leave the playground.

I must say though, there are times when a dh may need help and deserve to get it. Once when I was home with 3 dc, youngest then a toddler, dh (who was away on business) rang to say he was in hospital with a broken arm, 3 hours drive away and would I go and pick him up! We had a new car of 6 weeks which I wasn't very confident in and I had to find a hospital in a distant town I'd never been to before. Had to farm all the dc out to kind friends, nearly had an accident on the M6 when sandwiched between huge lorries and the windscreen misted up but managed to find dh, who was on morphine and looking v groggy. Subsequently needed major surgery on the arm.

Elasticwoman you are right of course. In those circumstance I would have picked DH up as well. In fact only last week I waited at the hospital with two small children for two hours while he had various tests.

However don t think that a lads only holiday to watch the football during which he spent all his cash and wanted me to dig deep to pay for him to have a nice last day with a seafood lunch beside the sea really falls in to that category .

Now Jingly, are you ever going to be happy about your dh babysitting? Knowing he has such scant regard for ds's safety