DH and dirty floor

[BunnytheFriendlyDragon]

This probably seems trivial but it is very annoying and I am not sure whether I am being U!

Our house is detached and has three external doors - front door to hallway, backdoor to kitchen and patio door leading into dining room. New wooden floors downstairs.

DH uses the patio door to come in from the garden but also if he has been out for a walk or his hobby, he walks from the front and around the back to come in the patio door.

It's so irritating because the dirt is on the dining room adjoining the front room where I sit (and often includes chunks of mud out of his shoes) and I have to clean it up at least twice a day. I don't want dirt in any room but find it lost annoying in the living room and dining room as we sit there and I can see it. DC will he crawling soon and I don't want unnecessary dirty on the floors. I am talking big chunks of mud and dirt sometimes. He leaves it for days if I don't remove it.

I think if DH wants to use that door 5-10 times a day he should be prepared to clean up after himself. He should do so anyway but the fact is he does think to hoover, sweep or clean the wooden floor. He occasionally hoovers in the other room but never thinks to run the hoover round all of downstairs.

He thinks I am being controlling to say he shouldn't use that door if he won't be mindful of dirt or clean up after himself. I think he's being inconsiderate of me and disrespectful of our home.

How do you deal with this?

And out of interest which door in your house do you use if you have wet / muddy shoes?

Why is wearing shoes in the house?

@NoSquirrels

Lock the doors, lose the key.

Have you asked him why he prefers the patio doors?

This

He will have to learn to remove his shoes when your baby is crawling.
We never wear shoes in the house, never have done. In our case it is cultural, but who wants dirt and mud in their house?

How dirty do his feet get when he’s cycling? I think he sounds rather stupid.

Another vote here for shoes off type of house.

This is vile. He’s treating you like an underling, it’s contemptuous. I’d also be tempted to sweep up all the mud and put it in the most inconvenient places you can think. His deodorant (if it’s roll on and you can get the ball out), shower gel, socks, sports bag, work bag, extra crunch in a sandwich etc.

Disrespect twat.

Of course you don't want him trailing muck into the house several times a day.

Is he dim.

And he's calling you controlling?
What an arse.
🙄

You picked a dud OP.

Giant dirttrapper mats at all doors?

We have a massive mat at our front door! We don't use our back door!
Everyone takes their shoes off on the mat! I also keep foot covers at the front door incase unexpected visitors who for whatever reason can't or won't take off their shoes!
Also have a wooden floors downstairs and a cream carpet up stairs so even downstairs slippers do not go upstairs 🤦‍♀️

@icedcoffees

Why can't he take his shoes off before he comes in? Surely that would solve your problem?

Exactly. None of us would walk in the house with muddy shoes.

2 doors here, detached farm house.

The way the house and approach are layed out it makes sense to use back door which leads to tiled utility room.

Front door leads to tiny carpeted hallway.

Front door remains permanently locked.

If we used it the mess would be ridiculous.

^How do you deal with this?^
We take shoes off by the door. Problem solved.

I am in and out of the garden a lot. I have a pair of slip on ankle wellies by the door and put them on for the garden because I don't want mud and grass clippings all over my house. He is a lazy, dirty fecker - buy him some Mud Boots - with his money.

IF you want to be nice about it, get a big mat and boot scraper for outside the door. Get another big mat for inside the door and ask him to wipe his shoes before he comes in and then take them off and leave them on the inside mat

If you are fed up to the back teeth, fling his shoes outside and let them get wet and rained on every time he tracks mud inside, or lock the patio door and loose the key

I think the question here is why is he wearing his work boots inside? He needs to take them off at the door.

Why can't he take his shoes off the lazy bastard?

Start sweeping up the mud in a dustpan and brush and put it inside his shoes - see if that gets him out of the habit.

Of course he is BU - why on earth should YOU sweep up his mess? I can't believe all the people on here excusing his dirty and extremely selfish behaviour! Oh and of course he'll tell you you're controlling - that's what they always say to try and train you into not being "a nag" - god forbid HE should just make an easy change that would make your relationship more harmonious. Fucker!

I hate dirty floors. DH seems not to notice until long past the time it bothers me. I don't think it's asking too much to request that your husband use a certain door, take off his dirty shoes right away, and clean up anything he's tracked in.

I'd invest in good mats and rugs, both inside and outside the door. We also have a place for outdoor-only shoes to go, right by the door.

It's still a struggle, because of our dogs and because my husband sometimes doesn't notice he's brought in dirt, but at least he isn't arguing with me about it and agrees to come and go via one door, so I can try to contain the dirt as much as possible.