AIBU? Freecycle- no please/thank you no freecycle

[doorornottodoor]

I have a rule if they don’t say please or thank you in their first post I don’t give it to them.

AIBU?

I got a long lecture once when I posted that something was available, would need to be collected by x date or would be going to the tip - apparently I was supposed to keep it indefinitely to prevent it going to landfill I was moving out a few days after the deadline I set.

YANBU!

My pet peeve with people on Facebook etc when I sell something is that everything I sell ends up like this. Literally the last 4 items I have sold have followed this pattern:

Me:
Person 1: hello, can I take this please?
Me: Yes absolutely, when would you like to collect?

RADIO SILENCE

In the meantime:

Person 2: hello is this still available? I’ll pop along now if so
Me: Well I’m just waiting for another buyer to confirm, but you’re next in line :)
Person 2: ok lovely thanks
Person 3: Hi is this available?
Person 4: I’ll take this if it’s still for sale?

I NEVER know how long to give Person 1. Sometimes they don’t reply, so after a day or two Person 2 gets the goods. Sometimes they do reply, then flake again. Sometimes I sell to Person 2 then Person 1 is a bit passive aggressive or comes out with a random excuse as to why they couldn’t come. It’s so hard!

Some people are rude. It's annoying. Do what you want, but if you really just want something gone, you may cutting off your nose to spite your face.

Yep I definitely do this, thought I was the only one. I once offered a tv and got 9 responses in about an hour and a half - went to the first one who used please rather than a rude single line.

I actually had the reverse with one thing - someone asked if it was available (politely), I said yes. She asked a few questions about it and I answered. She arranged to collect. She then emailed after that time saying she had had a ‘change of heart’ about the item and no longer wanted it. All very polite but seemed like a lot of thought for a small fairly cheap item!! Luckily I had someone else keen who picked it up an hour later.

And by ‘fairly cheap’ I mean to buy, I was giving it away for free!

This is like choosingbeggars on reddit 😂

I suspect some posters on this thread fall into the "still available?" camp, seeing basic courtesy as optional used only by the "worthy".

Yes we filter too. Haven't used freecycle in ages but do give things away on Gumtree. In the last couple of weeks we have got rid of an old chest of drawers and an old Xbox (which Music Magpie were offering just a fiver for).

So many people replying saying "i;ll have it" or "mine" and the just get ignored. The girl who took the chest of drawers wrote a nice message about how she'd just moved into her first flat and really needed to furnish it. The Xbox went to a guy who was very polite and turned up to collect with two very excited young kids.

I have no time for cheeky fuckers, we also had replies asking if we'd post stuff, or drop off. Err, that'd be a NO.

I’ve delivered something when asked once, as it was only slightly off the school run I used to do so it was fairly convenient for me. The buyer didn’t drive and was pregnant. Generally though I ask people to collect.

I once had someone ask if I’d deliver a free item an hour away. They were willing to pay me £5 for petrol nice try but nooo thanks

It really depends on how much you want to get rid of your item. If you have lots of interest, you can be as picky as you like! If you are using Facebook marketplace to try and save yourself a trip to the tip... then I'd grab hold of any offer to collect your junk that you can.

I've had the opposite problem and sometimes had my (very polite) messages completely ignored by sellers on marketplace. Also I messaged a lady about a free dolls house (I work in a school it was for my class and I can't afford to be buying lots of stuff anymore out of my own money), it was advertised as free but when I messaged asking about it she said she actually wanted an offer and that she'd put it as 'free' to get more people interested. Why not just be open about it and put a price on it?

It really depends on how much you want to get rid of your item. If you have lots of interest, you can be as picky as you like! If you are using Facebook marketplace to try and save yourself a trip to the tip... then I'd grab hold of any offer to collect your junk that you can.

I think a lot of the rude people genuinely believe that they're doing you a favour, hence they see no need to be polite. Because THEY wouldn't dream of giving something away, to do somebody a kindness, that they could have got a few quid for, they assume that anything you're giving away must be stuff that you couldn't be bothered to take to the tip.

In fact, I wonder if, with that assumption in mind, they think you're too stupid to realise that it's too good for the tip - and if they're too effusive in their interest, they might tip you the wink that it's decent and make you change your mind, or decide you want money for it!

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll so true!!!

Not a selling thing but
someone asked for a recommendation and I said leg Smiths of Brown Road do it and they came back and said number??? -that was it. I thought not telling you number Google it as so rude but someone put it on there and they came back on with no thank you but how much do they charge cant get through. Not one thank you at all .

Eg. Not leg